Aug 22, 2026 · 31 min · 10 segments
**What happens when menopause doesn’t create the crisis, but exposes everything your mind and body have spent decades carrying?** Lisa Lacy, writer and host of *Notes From the Edge*, explores how…
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There is a particular kind of terror that comes with waking up one day and realizing you do not recognize yourself, not your body, your emotions, the way your brain works, the way you react to people you love, the way you sleep and think.
And when you are a woman in midlife, there is a pretty decent chance somebody will look at all that and say, "Well, you're just going through menopause." Just.
I would like to have a conversation about the word just, because menopause does not feel like just anything to me.
It feels like somebody walked into the control room of my brain, flipped half the breakers off, turned the fire alarm on, and then handed me a pamphlet about hot flashes.
The trauma, hypervigilance, attachment wounds, addiction, grief, rage, fear, the need to perform and achieve, the desire to control enough variables around me that I could convince myself I was finally safe.
And when my hormones changed, a whole lot of the machinery I had unknowingly been using to keep that system operational changed with them.
Suddenly, survival strategies that had worked for decades stopped working, and I didn't know what the hell was happening.
I'm your host, Lisa Lacey, and today we're talking about menopause, trauma, mental health, and what happens when a body that has survived decades of shit suddenly loses some of the scaffolding that had helped hold it all together.
There is a particular kind of terror that comes with waking up one day and realizing you do not recognize yourself, not your body, your emotions, the way your brain works, the way you react to people you love, the way you sleep and think.
And when you are a woman in midlife, there is a pretty decent chance somebody will look at all that and say, "Well, you're just going through menopause." Just.
I would like to have a conversation about the word just, because menopause does not feel like just anything to me.
It feels like somebody walked into the control room of my brain, flipped half the breakers off, turned the fire alarm on, and then handed me a pamphlet about hot flashes.
The trauma, hypervigilance, attachment wounds, addiction, grief, rage, fear, the need to perform and achieve, the desire to control enough variables around me that I could convince myself I was finally safe.
And when my hormones changed, a whole lot of the machinery I had unknowingly been using to keep that system operational changed with them.
Suddenly, survival strategies that had worked for decades stopped working, and I didn't know what the hell was happening.
I'm your host, Lisa Lacey, and today we're talking about menopause, trauma, mental health, and what happens when a body that has survived decades of shit suddenly loses some of the scaffolding that had helped hold it all together.
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