The Masks We Forget To Take Off | No Small Talk with Camilla Collins

Right.

Reading through the questions that you filled in, reading through your answers for the questions that you filled in before this, I feel like you really nailed something.

And you said it so brilliantly.

You talked about the hidden cost of becoming who we need in order to succeed.

Tell me a little bit more about what you mean by that.

So this is my work at the moment from this year.

And that's sort of why I did close down the community and events for the time being when I focused on this is what my book is about.

Because I always say the first part of your life is, you know, you're getting away from yourself in order to get ahead, to get the job, to get the career, to get people to like you, all of that.

And then the latter part is you, I guess, coming back.

To yourself, actually, rediscovering who you are, having had to be so many things for different reasons to different people in order to just get along in life.

And so what I've stumbled across, and this has come up for me many a times in my life, several times, particularly when I moved from being a makeup artist into coaching and that whole identity piece.

But often the things that we have to do, the routines, the habits, the behaviors that we adopt in order to move through life and get success and achieve things they're great because they help us but they become part of our identity and so particularly with the world the way it is at the moment changing at a rapid pace a lot of people are changing jobs changing where they live or all sorts of things going on if we get stuck in our identity then it's very difficult to move forward into the next thing because our whole identity is based around that thing.

And so that's what I mean by the things that once helped us succeed, gain things, actually keep us stuck from moving forward onto the next thing, which we all need to do in order to carry on going with life.

And that's a problem I'm seeing a lot of now, particularly with the fast rate of change.

Yeah, I think that's 100% true, that being able to do the shift, because I have been in one part of it, and I've done the shift, but then I work with people who are trying to do the shift right now.

So I spent over 30 years in corporate.

I always worked with C-suite.

I worked with boards.

I worked with all the executives.

And I've talked before about how I felt like I wore a uniform on the days when I would have to be in front of these people.

I dressed differently, did my hair differently, did my makeup differently than on a day when maybe I'd be on set when I was working for TV or whatever.

anything along those lines of their more casual day.

But I work with a lot of people now who are moving from corporate to becoming solopreneurs.

And I find for them, they need to step into the discomfort around the things that they need to do in order to make themselves successful, especially things around visibility, being able to sell themselves.

So there is always this transition period that I feel like we have to go through.