Help for Hard Conversations (Episode 403)

You know, what brought this up is I was talking about a conversation that took place recently in my own home with people I love with my whole heart.

It went down a path that felt tricky to me.

It was hard.

I didn't know what to say.

And then I also realized at the same time that this conversation really did need help.

sacred space.

It needed to unfold because it mattered to them.

So that meant it mattered to me.

And I have a friend that we call him Doc Cock.

He's a, he's a counselor and a really close friend of mine.

And he reminds me at times, Susie sit in the tension of the heart.

And I'm like, well, that's easy for you to say.

So this is the this is the confession question.

When a conversation feels tricky or hard, what is your initial instinct? What do you do? I would say

before it would be like.

You know, if someone like confronted me and it was a hard thing, I would feel like offended and want to like defend.

And now I just really listen and kind of take it in and kind of like step back and wait before I respond just because like that's what helps me kind of like get my bearing before I say something.

Yeah.

Y'all, I'm going to sound like a crazy person, but I sort of rub my hands together and go, oh, goody.

I came for secure attachment, like not universally, but if it's with someone that

I have a level of trust and connection with, I'm like, okay.

Cause to me, hard conversations are always, unless if someone's really mad at you, then I'm like going to hide under the couch.

So let's say it's not like someone is like attacking you, but it's, you're working through something.

It's just a hard conversation.

Yeah.