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Minding Your Mind

Minding Your Mind

MYM – Surviving Rejection

Jul 20, 2026 · 26 min · 11 segments

No one likes being rejected – by a partner, when going for a promotion, or not being invited to a party. It stings. How can we best deal with it? If you have any questions or comments, email Ian and…

No one likes being rejected – by a partner, when going for a promotion, or not being invited to a party. It stings. How can we best deal with it? If you have any questions or comments, email Ian and James at [⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindingyourmind2@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠](mailto:mindingyourmind2@gmail.com) . Let them know any other topics you’d like them to cover. To find out more about depression and support services, you can contact Head to Health at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.headtohealth.gov.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ , Beyond Blue at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.beyondblue.org.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ , Lifeline at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifeline.org.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or on 13 11 14 and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.headspace.org.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Thanks to Future Generation Global. If you would like to help us continue do this podcast by donating, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and select option two "Youth mental health research at the Brain and Mind Centre". Donations $2 and over are tax deductible. Thanks!

No one likes being rejected – by a partner, when going for a promotion, or not being invited to a party. It stings. How can we best deal with it? If you have any questions or comments, email Ian and…

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Speakers: Ian HickieHostJames O'LoghlinHost

Top entities: James O'Loghlin×3 Beyond Blue×4 Gmail×2 Brain and Mind Centre×2 University of Sydney

Show signals: SuitabilitySafeBiasNot politicalAudience≈13k followers

Professional & Academic Rejection1:38 – 2:33

I

1:38

Let's start with the easy ones, James.

I

1:40

In my academic world, rejection is the everyday experience.

I

1:44

We write academic papers.

I

1:45

We send them off to journals.

I

1:46

They're read by others.

I

1:47

They go, oh, what is this rubbish? Who wrote this? And then we apply for grants and things.

I

1:53

And sadly, in the Australian situation, only one in 10 of those ever gets funded.

I

1:57

One in 10.

I

1:57

Imagine getting rejected nine times out of 10.

I

2:01

But a lot of the processes that we have are meant to improve the quality of the thing.

I

2:05

They're meant to be serious critiques of something that you've done.

I

2:09

And you're meant to benefit from the feedback.

I

2:10

Now, I've got to say, it hurts, okay, to get told that the work's no good, it could have been better thought through, you're not good enough to get the money, you're not good enough to get the grant, whatever else.

I

2:20

So there is an idea behind that, that the rejection serves a useful purpose, that improves the quality of what happens.

I

2:27

And if you can get over the personal... aspect of it long enough, often it is the case.

James O'LoghlinPersonAustralian comedian and presenter
92%3 mentions
Beyond BlueOrganization
75%4 mentions
GmailWebsiteWeb site
58%2 mentions
Brain and Mind CentreOrganizationResearch institute in Camperdown, Australia
42%2 mentions
University of SydneyEntityPublic university in Camperdown, Australia
25%1 mention
AustraliaCountryCountry in Oceania
8%1 mention

Mental HealthHealth
Romantic RelationshipsRelationships
Society
RejectionPsychology > Emotions
Coping MechanismsPsychology > Emotions > Rejection
Social DynamicsSociety
Emotional Well-beingHealth > Mental Health
Personal DevelopmentPsychology > Emotions > Rejection > Coping Mechanisms
EmotionsPsychology
Coping with RejectionHealth > Mental Health > Emotional Well-being
Health
Education
Psychology
Relationships
Rejection in RelationshipsRelationships > Romantic Relationships
Emotional ImpactRelationships > Romantic Relationships > Rejection in Relationships
Coping StrategiesRelationships > Romantic Relationships > Rejection in Relationships > Emotional Impact
Academic RejectionEducation
Grant ApplicationsEducation > Academic Rejection
Feedback ProcessesEducation > Academic Rejection > Grant Applications
Learning from RejectionEducation > Academic Rejection > Grant Applications > Feedback Processes
Psychological ResilienceHealth > Mental Health > Emotional Well-being > Coping with Rejection
Rejection in SocietySociety > Social Dynamics
Interpersonal RelationshipsSociety > Social Dynamics > Rejection in Society
Learning from Social ExperiencesSociety > Social Dynamics > Rejection in Society > Interpersonal Relationships

Professional & Academic Rejection1:38 – 2:33

I

1:38

Let's start with the easy ones, James.

I

1:40

In my academic world, rejection is the everyday experience.

I

1:44

We write academic papers.

I

1:45

We send them off to journals.

I

1:46

They're read by others.

I

1:47

They go, oh, what is this rubbish? Who wrote this? And then we apply for grants and things.

I

1:53

And sadly, in the Australian situation, only one in 10 of those ever gets funded.

I

1:57

One in 10.

I

1:57

Imagine getting rejected nine times out of 10.

I

2:01

But a lot of the processes that we have are meant to improve the quality of the thing.

I

2:05

They're meant to be serious critiques of something that you've done.

I

2:09

And you're meant to benefit from the feedback.

I

2:10

Now, I've got to say, it hurts, okay, to get told that the work's no good, it could have been better thought through, you're not good enough to get the money, you're not good enough to get the grant, whatever else.

I

2:20

So there is an idea behind that, that the rejection serves a useful purpose, that improves the quality of what happens.

I

2:27

And if you can get over the personal... aspect of it long enough, often it is the case.

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