Ep. 134: Anxious Attachment and the Mental Load: What You Can Actually Do About It

And I also answer a marriage question at the end of every episode.

And today's question talks about dealing with a dismissive avoidant spouse and like what to do.

So stick around for that one.

All right, before I jump in, I do want to say that I'm going to be talking in generalities here on this episode.

Like what is typically seen common themes, common threads associated with an anxious attachment style.

But obviously, there can be a lot of nuance in this.

there can be a lot of other outside factors that also influence the mental load and how we view it and how it feels.

Things like mental health or history of trauma or neurodivergence or family dynamics, right? All sorts of things that can impact how how this is presented, how we see things, how we feel, right? So if you're like, I'm pretty sure I have an anxious attachment style, but this isn't fitting for me or that isn't how I do it, like that's okay.

I still think that you'll end up benefiting from a lot of the tools that I'm going to talk about in this episode, but people are beautifully complicated and I don't have time to to talk about all the different nuanced ways that this can turn out.

And so just keep that in mind, right? This is going to be stereotypically what not only works for someone with an anxious attachment style, but how they view it and all that.

But if you feel different, that's okay.