Love Your Life: Love Your Life: Midlife Reinvention, Emotional Regulation, & Parenting
Sep 9, 2026 · 46 min · 10 segments
Have you ever told yourself, "I'll do it tomorrow," only to find yourself saying the same thing the next day? And the next?And the next? All the while, feeling worse and worse about yourself? (been…
Susie PettitHostA lot of people think that the opposite of perfectionism is apathy and that's not true.
So the opposite is not like a perfectionism isn't just letting everything go and like not caring anymore.
Again, it's you're on the path, but you're doing it in a different way and from a different place.
And speaking to that different placing, like as you just brought up, the internal side is part of how people who are listening can figure out, actually, maybe I am a perfectionist and a lot more than I thought I counted as one.
If you just think about, well, what kind of voice drives your behaviors? Is it a harsh, shame-driven voice? Is it very critical? Yeah.
And as part of this, like there's also crossover with other things like depression or anxiety.
And as you just modeled for us, if we're going to do the opposite of that, which is to me, it's probably semantics to others.
But to me, it's like, no, let's just let's remove the word because none of us really know
So if we're going to go with the progress model here, then that voice is actually one of compassion.
who helps you objectively take note of what's going well and what's not and what's important, but without that shame-ridden intensity with it.
And that becomes the one-two punch of you're on the path, but you're pursuing it in a different way and from a different place.
A lot of people think that the opposite of perfectionism is apathy and that's not true.
So the opposite is not like a perfectionism isn't just letting everything go and like not caring anymore.
Again, it's you're on the path, but you're doing it in a different way and from a different place.
And speaking to that different placing, like as you just brought up, the internal side is part of how people who are listening can figure out, actually, maybe I am a perfectionist and a lot more than I thought I counted as one.
If you just think about, well, what kind of voice drives your behaviors? Is it a harsh, shame-driven voice? Is it very critical? Yeah.
And as part of this, like there's also crossover with other things like depression or anxiety.
And as you just modeled for us, if we're going to do the opposite of that, which is to me, it's probably semantics to others.
But to me, it's like, no, let's just let's remove the word because none of us really know
So if we're going to go with the progress model here, then that voice is actually one of compassion.
who helps you objectively take note of what's going well and what's not and what's important, but without that shame-ridden intensity with it.
And that becomes the one-two punch of you're on the path, but you're pursuing it in a different way and from a different place.
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