145: The Onion Framework: Heal Emotional Blocks to Lose Weight | Lizzie Ens

And one of the things that I shared with her is that once you do so much of work to undo and unravel these things that you thought you knew at one point in time or you believed in a certain way at one time and you start unraveling that trauma and you start healing from all of these things, you just see the world in a completely different way and it comes from a place of love.

But you're also able to see when someone is really stuck in where they're at.

And I explained this specific thing to her.

I said, you know, because of things that happened when we were children and traumatic things What we end up doing over time is we develop this entire onion around our heart.

And there's all these layers that are just caked.

That onion is wrapped around our heart.

And we do that for protection of ourselves.

But what we don't realize is that we become so closed off that onion.

And ironically, when you cut the onion, it starts to smell right.

But the onion is so tightly wrapped around our heart, because we think that we're just doing that to protect ourselves.

But what it's actually doing is it's closing us off from ourselves and so what happens in that process is we have so much closed off in our hearts in the form of quote-unquote protection that we're hurting ourselves because it doesn't allow us to actually live life truly free that onion may be temporarily protecting us from hurt But long term, it's hurting us from living in our true potential, because we have everything so closed off.

And one of the things that has to happen in order for us to actually heal our bodies physically, spiritually, and emotionally is we need to start pulling that onion back.

And that can be very, very painful.

But I remember this years ago, I was doing some mentoring with someone and I didn't realize this.

But this is very much also something that comes from growing up in the Amish community.

And I see this with a lot of former Amish people now.

Didn't know at the time that this is what was going on.

But this person told me like after the first call I had with this person, he said to me, he said, Lizzie, like you're like an onion.

I have to pull questions.

I have to pry these things out of you.

I'm not just like openly and vulnerably sharing things.

things he had to ask me very specific questions to get to know who I really am and what's underneath the surface because he knew that I had potential and he saw that but he also saw how things were so close to off and I didn't realize that I really really didn't at the time and the thing is is you don't know what you don't know until you do know and so the reason that that happens a lot is because when you grow up the way that I did grow up is number one you were kind of told to just sit down shut up and be quiet don't ask questions especially as a young child so you go to church and you sit in a two to three hour church service you're not allowed to make a peep because You're supposed to be quiet in that church service as a five-year-old for two to three hours.

And one of the things that I shared with her is that once you do so much of work to undo and unravel these things that you thought you knew at one point in time or you believed in a certain way at one time and you start unraveling that trauma and you start healing from all of these things, you just see the world in a completely different way and it comes from a place of love.

But you're also able to see when someone is really stuck in where they're at.

And I explained this specific thing to her.

I said, you know, because of things that happened when we were children and traumatic things What we end up doing over time is we develop this entire onion around our heart.

And there's all these layers that are just caked.

That onion is wrapped around our heart.

And we do that for protection of ourselves.

But what we don't realize is that we become so closed off that onion.

And ironically, when you cut the onion, it starts to smell right.

But the onion is so tightly wrapped around our heart, because we think that we're just doing that to protect ourselves.

But what it's actually doing is it's closing us off from ourselves and so what happens in that process is we have so much closed off in our hearts in the form of quote-unquote protection that we're hurting ourselves because it doesn't allow us to actually live life truly free that onion may be temporarily protecting us from hurt But long term, it's hurting us from living in our true potential, because we have everything so closed off.

And one of the things that has to happen in order for us to actually heal our bodies physically, spiritually, and emotionally is we need to start pulling that onion back.

And that can be very, very painful.

But I remember this years ago, I was doing some mentoring with someone and I didn't realize this.

But this is very much also something that comes from growing up in the Amish community.

And I see this with a lot of former Amish people now.

Didn't know at the time that this is what was going on.

But this person told me like after the first call I had with this person, he said to me, he said, Lizzie, like you're like an onion.

I have to pull questions.

I have to pry these things out of you.

I'm not just like openly and vulnerably sharing things.

things he had to ask me very specific questions to get to know who I really am and what's underneath the surface because he knew that I had potential and he saw that but he also saw how things were so close to off and I didn't realize that I really really didn't at the time and the thing is is you don't know what you don't know until you do know and so the reason that that happens a lot is because when you grow up the way that I did grow up is number one you were kind of told to just sit down shut up and be quiet don't ask questions especially as a young child so you go to church and you sit in a two to three hour church service you're not allowed to make a peep because You're supposed to be quiet in that church service as a five-year-old for two to three hours.