Jul 29, 2026 · 18 min · 6 segments
Is your partner shutting down when you’re offering solutions to them? On this week’s podcast episode, I explain why offering solutions to your partner who is just trying to share with you isn’t…
Sarah CohanHost
If it's a hetero relationship, the female or the more femme person in the relationship will bring up something, be sharing and talking about their feelings in relation to something that just happened.
And the other partner, usually the man or the more masculine partner, is offering solutions.
I don't want you to get stuck in the gender, but I just wanted to say it out loud because what's happening is oftentimes what the man wants to do is support and be there to like, let's problem solve.
And this is where I want to help you because I want it to be okay for your partner to have emotions.
Last week on the podcast, I was talking about the 50-50 idea where life is 50% great, 50% shitty.
And I have to say, this idea has helped me so much, especially since having a child because life gets pretty hard after having a child.
And all of a sudden, I was going on dates with my husband where I was not having a good time.
And I was just like, what is going on? And And eventually what I realized is that as a parent, 50% of our dates are going to be awesome and so connective and so amazing.
And then 50% of our dates are like us trying to find our way back to each other after parenting.
If it's a hetero relationship, the female or the more femme person in the relationship will bring up something, be sharing and talking about their feelings in relation to something that just happened.
And the other partner, usually the man or the more masculine partner, is offering solutions.
I don't want you to get stuck in the gender, but I just wanted to say it out loud because what's happening is oftentimes what the man wants to do is support and be there to like, let's problem solve.
And this is where I want to help you because I want it to be okay for your partner to have emotions.
Last week on the podcast, I was talking about the 50-50 idea where life is 50% great, 50% shitty.
And I have to say, this idea has helped me so much, especially since having a child because life gets pretty hard after having a child.
And all of a sudden, I was going on dates with my husband where I was not having a good time.
And I was just like, what is going on? And And eventually what I realized is that as a parent, 50% of our dates are going to be awesome and so connective and so amazing.
And then 50% of our dates are like us trying to find our way back to each other after parenting.
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