EP 689: How to Become Securely Attached: Belief Work

I am going to be talking about what actually changes your attachment style And I think it's so important that when we think about what an attachment style is, it is so much more than how you relate to a romantic partner, how you date, how you form romantic bonds.

What we know is that your attachment style shows up in all areas of your life.

You have a relationship with everything in your life.

You have a relationship to your work, relationship to your finances.

Obviously, you have friendships, family, etc., right? A relationship to yourself and how you take care of you.

So when we become securely attached, it's not just about... finally having that healthy, loving, safe, close, connected, passionate, romantic relationship, although we know that is amazing and it is an incredible benefit of doing this work.

But becoming securely attached is so much more.

And I've just been so passionate lately about all the ways that secure attachment changes your life.

And I've been really digging into the research on what are the mechanisms of change.

And I want to talk to you about them.

So this new series, we're going to be talking about what actually is helps you become securely attached.

What is worthwhile for you to consider doing, consider getting help with, whether that's working with me one-on-one or wherever you go to find support, I want you to think about what are the actual mechanisms of change.

So I'm so excited about today's episode because we're talking about... belief work.

This is one of my favorite aspects that I know changes people.

And it's not just from my own experience, although I know that belief work has had a huge, huge component of me becoming securely attached.

And it's not just from what I've seen my clients go through with doing belief work.

This is also backed up by research.

And I actually want to talk to you about the different types of belief work because that's such a broad term.

And I'm going to break them down and we're going to talk about why they're important.

And I'm so excited because this is the kind of episode that I needed when I was so stuck, when I was repeating patterns over and over again, banging my head against the wall, wondering why are my relationships not going anywhere? Why do I feel so stuck? in my life, this is the kind of episode that I needed.

So, you know, if you've been listening to this episode, you have an understanding of your attachment style.

At its core, your attachment style is how you relate to in the world and the way that you form and maintain bonds.

And it can also explain your coping strategies in relationships, why you do what you do.

And by understanding your attachment style, it gives you a lot of insight, right? So a lot of you tuning in, you may already know your style.

You may know, are you anxious? Are you avoidant? Are you disorganized? And maybe you could even name your triggers in real time so you have all this awareness.