5 Hidden Ways You're CHASING Someone Without Realizing It · Let's Get It With Coach Los · Radar

The Hidden Meaning of Chasing0:34 – 2:54

0:34

Here's a scary truth.

0:36

You might be chasing the person you're dating, or even worse, the person you're in a relationship with without even realizing it.

0:44

Most people think chasing is obvious.

0:47

You're calling too much, texting too much, begging for their time, right? But there are hidden ways smart, self-aware people chase and don't even realize they're doing it.

0:59

So in this video, I'm gonna reveal the five hidden ways you may in fact be chasing someone and not realize it.

1:06

And once you see these, you'll never look at your behavior the same way again.

1:11

I had a client who swore she never chased men.

1:15

She told me, "I don't blow his phone up.

1:18

I don't beg for attention.

1:19

None of that." But when we dug into her habits, she realized she was chasing, just in smarter, more subtle ways.

1:27

See, chasing isn't always desperate.

1:31

Sometimes it can be disguised as care, patience, or, get this, even confidence, right? Because chasing isn't about it having to be this sense of urgency from you to the other person and, and, you know, seeming like, you know, uh, you, you, you, you, you need just to work with them and all that.

1:49

It's more about the imbalance that's created.

1:52

See, there's a difference in chasing versus pursuing.

1:55

And first off, if you're a feminine woman, you shouldn't be pursuing any man.

1:58

He should be pursuing you.

2:00

You should just be engaging in return, right? Re-reciprocating the energy or the effort that he's putting out.

2:07

But even as a man, if you are pursuing a woman, it becomes chasing whenever there's an imbalance of the effort going on in the equation to where you're doing more work to carry the experience than the other person is trying to match you with to build a bridge on the other side, right? And that goes for both people.

2:27

So whether you're pursuing or the one being pursued, what's the, the balance of energy looking like, right? That's where it gets to be chasing, 'cause you're trying to go claim or, or, or win the person versus it being a thing to where you're just introducing yourself to that person and they're doing the same to you in return, and you're both doing your part to make this make sense, as long as it makes sense, as long as you're interested, interested in, in each other.

The Hidden Meaning of Chasing0:34 – 2:54

0:34

Here's a scary truth.

0:36

You might be chasing the person you're dating, or even worse, the person you're in a relationship with without even realizing it.

0:44

Most people think chasing is obvious.

0:47

You're calling too much, texting too much, begging for their time, right? But there are hidden ways smart, self-aware people chase and don't even realize they're doing it.

0:59

So in this video, I'm gonna reveal the five hidden ways you may in fact be chasing someone and not realize it.

1:06

And once you see these, you'll never look at your behavior the same way again.

1:11

I had a client who swore she never chased men.

1:15

She told me, "I don't blow his phone up.

1:18

I don't beg for attention.

1:19

None of that." But when we dug into her habits, she realized she was chasing, just in smarter, more subtle ways.

1:27

See, chasing isn't always desperate.

1:31

Sometimes it can be disguised as care, patience, or, get this, even confidence, right? Because chasing isn't about it having to be this sense of urgency from you to the other person and, and, you know, seeming like, you know, uh, you, you, you, you, you need just to work with them and all that.

1:49

It's more about the imbalance that's created.

1:52

See, there's a difference in chasing versus pursuing.

1:55

And first off, if you're a feminine woman, you shouldn't be pursuing any man.

1:58

He should be pursuing you.

2:00

You should just be engaging in return, right? Re-reciprocating the energy or the effort that he's putting out.

2:07

But even as a man, if you are pursuing a woman, it becomes chasing whenever there's an imbalance of the effort going on in the equation to where you're doing more work to carry the experience than the other person is trying to match you with to build a bridge on the other side, right? And that goes for both people.

2:27

So whether you're pursuing or the one being pursued, what's the, the balance of energy looking like, right? That's where it gets to be chasing, 'cause you're trying to go claim or, or, or win the person versus it being a thing to where you're just introducing yourself to that person and they're doing the same to you in return, and you're both doing your part to make this make sense, as long as it makes sense, as long as you're interested, interested in, in each other.