Sep 12, 2026 · 15 min · 9 segments
Some of the things you think are love, attention, or care may actually be control in disguise. In this episode, Coach Los breaks down four behaviors that can look like love on the surface, but are…
That's why these four things are so dangerous because they feel very flattering, but they leave you stuck at the end of the day in an unhealthy situation.
And see, the reason why it's such a fine line and it's much thinner than you think is because it sways left or right based on intention.
Like so many things, it's the energy and mentality that someone's doing something from, not the packaging that is done in.
This is why it's very important to understand someone's values or their their core of why they do things, because you can get better.
a similar outcome from someone, but for very different reasons, right? Someone can be out there in the world and they could help you with something to spite someone else because maybe, I don't know, they know that, you know, you and that other person don't get along.
So by helping you, it gets at that other person because maybe they have an issue with them versus them coming to help you because it just makes them feel good and feels their heart to help someone else, right? Really different spaces of intention and energy, but the same outcome.
That's why these four things are so dangerous because they feel very flattering, but they leave you stuck at the end of the day in an unhealthy situation.
And see, the reason why it's such a fine line and it's much thinner than you think is because it sways left or right based on intention.
Like so many things, it's the energy and mentality that someone's doing something from, not the packaging that is done in.
This is why it's very important to understand someone's values or their their core of why they do things, because you can get better.
a similar outcome from someone, but for very different reasons, right? Someone can be out there in the world and they could help you with something to spite someone else because maybe, I don't know, they know that, you know, you and that other person don't get along.
So by helping you, it gets at that other person because maybe they have an issue with them versus them coming to help you because it just makes them feel good and feels their heart to help someone else, right? Really different spaces of intention and energy, but the same outcome.
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