I recently coached a client on boundaries, and about ten minutes into the conversation I knew it was something I needed to share with you too.
She told me she has such a hard time saying no that she gives everything away, and then feels hurt when someone does not choose her. Then she said the sharper version: I do not say no, I am always looking for how I can say yes. In this episode I walk through the reframe that changes that pattern, the three steps I gave her, and the quiet moment on the call when it finally clicked for her.
What you will learn
- How to flip a boundary from a refusal into a decision you already made
- Why your priorities lose to other people’s requests, and the one change that fixes it
- The move one number rule that keeps a new boundary from collapsing in week two
- How to write present tense statements your brain will actually accept
- A thirty second tracking habit that proves you can already do the thing you think you cannot
Join the Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat
- October 15 to 18, 2026, CIVANA Wellness Resort and Spa, Carefree, Arizona. A few select women, application only. Apply or schedule a chat at audaciouslyunapologetic.com
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If this episode landed, the kindest thing you can do is send it to one woman who says yes too fast
