Quiet Quitting Marriage: Why Women Are Emotionally Checking Out

I never made a decision to quit my relationship, but it was a realisation of it's over the way it was.

I don't organise anything for us because what's the point?

If it feels like no matter how much you knock on that door, change isn't coming, then of course the most protective thing for us to do is to stop knocking.

I don't

have the mental space at the moment to deal with things going really ugly.

For some couples, after a few years together, the honeymoon period is well and truly over.

Like, you know those little bride and groom figurines that sit on top of a wedding cake? Well, one of them is lying face down in the icing, too checked out to even groan.

In real life, it looks like this.

You're living under the same roof, eating at the same table, doing Christmas and birthdays together.

You might even be smiling in photos.

You are not fighting.

And that's because you're not actually trying.

You've simply stopped reaching for each other.

The term quiet quitting went mainstream in 2022.

It started with a TikTok video encouraging workers to avoid getting fired, keep getting paid, but to quietly quit, do the bare minimum to avoid burnout at work and to avoid giving your all to an entity that would never love you back.

This surrendering was an acceptance that we may not have the power to change the situation, but we could change our response.

And some women are taking that same energy into their relationships.

Physically, they're there going through the motions, but emotionally, they're checked out.

waiting for a day when the kids have left home or they have enough money saved or the courage to say, see ya, bye.

So what does it feel like to be in a relationship with the colour drained out of it? And what is the cost for your partnership, your kids and your own sense of self? I'm Yumi Steins.

Ladies, we need to talk about quietly quitting your relationship.