When Clients Would Rather Feel More Financially Successful Than Take Action To BE More Successful: Kitces & Carl Ep 193

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Uh, this, my first thinking around this started a long time ago when I, when somebody said to me, "We're..." And it was, this, this was, I think, Luke Burgis in his, his book Wanting.

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We had him on as a guest-

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... at the Society of Advice talking about that book, and I th- I think that's where I first heard someone say, "We're often far more interested," we, us humans, "are often far more interested in being seen as something than actually being the thing." Like, you could put in a lot of words here.

Like, one of my favorites is, "We're often more interested in being seen as creative than actually being creative." Actually being creative's really kind of scary and hard work.

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We're actually-

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I was gonna say, I mean, that, that's just a big, you know, I don't know, be- being seen as creative is cool and hip, at least in some circles.

Actually being creative is just a giant ball of failure risk.

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While everybody-

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... judges your creative quality.

That, that seems kind of awful, unless you're, like, really-

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... possessed by the muse or something.

That's exact- that's exactly right.

Like, yeah, being seen as, we could use contrarian, being seen as contrarian, actually being...

Being seen as productive, actually being pr- being seen as s- being seen as somebody who deadlifts than actually being somebody who deadlifts.

Like, there's, like, you could play around with lots of words in there.