Why Is It So Hard to Let Yourself Be Happy?

Today, I want you to think about a moment where you felt like something in your life was too good to be true.

Let's say you get a new job or you get a new opportunity at your work or you meet someone who you really like and you're kind of crazy about them and you feel like you need to just keep waiting for the other shoe to drop because there's no way that something in life could really be that good.

We were taught from a really young age that if something is too good to be true, and it probably is.

And you end up finding yourself never really letting yourself fully be happy or content in any situation you're in, whether that be a friendship, a relationship, you know, on a trip.

Maybe you're always expecting your flights to get delayed or something to be wrong with your hotel reservation.

And it's so easy to kind of let that snowball into assuming that something is always going to go wrong.

And that you're never going to really be able to just be happy and content and calm in your own life.

You know, people say bad things happen to good people.

And yeah, sometimes they do.

A lot of times in life, bad things do happen to good people.

But I'll be the first to say that doesn't always have to mean that it's going to happen to you.

I've been thinking about the idea of happiness a lot lately because I recently got dinner with one of my best friends in the world.

And, you know, we're talking about her job and relationship and family and kind of catching up on all the things.

And...

She started talking about how she finds it really hard to just let herself be happy.

Exactly what I said.

She's always kind of waiting for the other shoe to drop.

She always assumes that no matter what's happening in her life, it's probably too good to be true.

And part of that is, you know, from trauma, from growing up and, you know, a relationship that didn't work out in the past and things like that.

And she thinks that she kind of doesn't deserve to be happy.

And at the same time, even if she did deserve it, she thinks that it kind of just isn't really possible.

There must be a catch in there somewhere.

And it really got me thinking because, you know, this is, like I said, one of my best friends and someone who deserves every single happiness and who I would shout from the rooftops.

I do sometimes shout from the rooftops or at least shout at her that she deserves every single happiness and to enjoy her life.

And for some reason, it's so hard for her to believe it.