Sep 24, 2026 · 15 min · 9 segments
Can you truly be in love with someone if they don't love you back? In this solo episode, Hillary Bautch dives into the psychology of love and whether being in love requires reciprocity. After…
Hillary BautchHost
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you loved someone so much that it almost felt like too much? Like you were feeling all of this love and all of these emotions at full volume and you almost didn't know what to do with all of it.
When we say that we're in love, We usually don't just mean, oh, we have a fondness for someone.
It has to come with all of the other things, the racing heart and the thinking about them all the time and the butterflies and butterflies in a good way, not the butterflies that come from anxiety, because I think that's a whole other conversation that sometimes butterflies actually mean anxiety.
But the feeling of almost being irrational and kind of out of your mind because you just don't know what to do with all of these feelings toward this other person.
The
idea of being in love is complicated, right? And there's a lot that goes into it on the side of yourself and also on another person that you are feeling it towards.
Unrequited love absolutely is still love and it's intense and it can make you feel crazy.
But I don't think feeling love in that way is the same as being in love in the sense that you are also getting that same full volume feeling from the other person.
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you loved someone so much that it almost felt like too much? Like you were feeling all of this love and all of these emotions at full volume and you almost didn't know what to do with all of it.
When we say that we're in love, We usually don't just mean, oh, we have a fondness for someone.
It has to come with all of the other things, the racing heart and the thinking about them all the time and the butterflies and butterflies in a good way, not the butterflies that come from anxiety, because I think that's a whole other conversation that sometimes butterflies actually mean anxiety.
But the feeling of almost being irrational and kind of out of your mind because you just don't know what to do with all of these feelings toward this other person.
The
idea of being in love is complicated, right? And there's a lot that goes into it on the side of yourself and also on another person that you are feeling it towards.
Unrequited love absolutely is still love and it's intense and it can make you feel crazy.
But I don't think feeling love in that way is the same as being in love in the sense that you are also getting that same full volume feeling from the other person.
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