Small Wins in Divorce Count More Than You Think

**Get prepared with our Divorce Crash Course. Typically priced at $150, available now for $50, thanks to our angel underwriters OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink. Get the private podcast and guidebook to help you understand the process, ask better questions, and avoid expensive mistakes.** **Your divorce can be moving slowly while you’re making real progress.** Did you open the email you’ve been avoiding? Gather the financial paperwork? Pause before responding to a message that made you furious? Those small wins deserve credit—even if your divorce is nowhere near finished. In this solo mini episode of **How Not to Suck at Divorce**, Andrea Rappaport talks about recognizing progress during divorce without waiting for the final signature. From managing divorce overwhelm to rebuilding confidence and giving your children undivided attention, Andrea shares the everyday accomplishments that are easy to overlook when you’re focused on getting through the process. We also talk about recovering from mistakes, letting a difficult morning be just a difficult morning, and celebrating something you did well before immediately raising the bar. You don’t need to turn every accomplishment into another expectation. If you feel stuck, exhausted, or like you’re not doing enough, this episode offers a simple way to notice what you’re handling—and give yourself a little recognition along the way. **In this episode:** - Why finalizing your divorce shouldn’t be your only measure of progress. - Practical wins, from organizing documents to asking your attorney an uncomfortable question. - Emotional wins, including pausing before responding and recognizing a mistake. - Parenting during divorce and making room for meaningful moments with your kids. - Giving yourself credit without demanding more from yourself tomorrow. - Why one bad moment doesn’t have to define the entire day. - Keeping a record of your progress to revisit when you’re feeling discouraged. - Sharing your accomplishments and letting yourself accept encouragement. **Your action steps** **Start a “Things That Didn’t Suck” note.** Use your phone’s notes app to keep a running list of things you’re proud of. Include the paperwork, the hard conversations, the moments of patience, and the times you were kind to yourself. **Tell someone about a win.** You can say, “This might sound small, but it was hard for me, and I did it.” Give yourself permission to receive support and recognition. **Celebrate before raising the bar.** Take a moment to acknowledge what you accomplished. A small win doesn’t need to become a bigger assignment. **Leave room for hard days.** You don’t have to add something to your list every day. Return to it when you can, and use it as a reminder of the progress you’ve already made. **Resources and support** Join our private Facebook community Share your small wins, connect with people navigating divorce and coparenting, and find encouragement along the way. Guided Meditations for Divorce Take a moment to pause, breathe, and regroup when divorce feels overwhelming. Divorce Crash Course Prepare for your next steps with our private podcast and guidebook. **Available now for $50, typically $150**, thanks to OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink. OurFamilyWizard — 20% off your first year Explore tools for organizing coparenting communication, schedules, and expenses. Explore our divorce podcast playlists Find episodes organized around the issues you’re facing before, during, and after divorce. **Follow How Not to Suck at Divorce, leave a rating or review, and send this episode to someone who needs a reminder that their effort counts.** Divorce is a marathon, not a sprint. You don’t have to wait until it’s over to recognize how far you’ve come. **You have got this. And we’ve got you.** Mentioned in this episode: **Our Family Wizard** How Not to Suck at Divorce is proud to be the only podcast that can offer you 20% off your first year of the essentials package. Visit Our Family Wizard to ask your attorney is OFW is right for your family. Our Family Wizard