How to Stop Talking About Your Divorce When Everyone Keeps Asking | Divorce Podcast

**What can you say when friends and family keep asking about your divorce—and you don’t want to talk about it?** Tell them you’d rather discuss something else, then redirect the conversation. Try: “The divorce is still happening, and I will pay you to talk about anything else.” You can appreciate someone’s concern without giving them a personal update. In this mini episode of **How Not to Suck at Divorce**, **Andrea Rappaport** explains why you deserve a break from discussing your divorce, how to handle unsolicited opinions, and what to say when someone asks a personal question at the worst possible moment—including right in front of your children. From the sad head tilt to the school-parking-lot conversation you immediately regret, Andrea shares practical ways to set conversational boundaries without feeling like you’re being rude. Getting support matters. So does having room to talk about something besides your ex. Pumpkin candles, questionable eyebrows, your next binge-watch—anything that reminds you there’s more to your life than this process. ## Get Support for Your Next Steps You don’t have to figure out divorce alone. Our **Divorce Crash Course** helps you get organized, prepare better questions, and understand common mistakes before they become expensive. Explore the course, **Divorce Pep Talks**, practical guides, and our free checklist at How Not to Suck at Divorce. ## What You’ll Learn ✅ **Why you need breaks from talking about divorce**, even when the process is still consuming your time and attention. ✅ **How unsolicited divorce advice can create confusion**, especially when friends and family offer conflicting opinions about your case. ✅ **What to say when someone asks, “How’s the divorce?”** without sharing details you’d rather keep private. ✅ **How to redirect conversations around your children** and avoid discussing adult conflict within earshot. ✅ **How to seek support while maintaining boundaries**, so your divorce doesn’t become the subject of every interaction. ## Episode Highlights (00:00) What to do when everyone keeps asking about your divorce (00:05) The divorce update you don’t owe anyone—and why you need a break Andrea also covers three reasons to limit constant divorce conversations, ready-to-use responses, protecting your privacy around your children, and the new Divorce Pep Talks. ## Key Takeaways 🔷 **Have a response ready.** “I don’t feel like digging into it today. What’s happening with you?” is enough. 🔷 **Ask for the support you actually want.** Suggest a funny distraction, dinner, or getting together when you don’t have the kids. 🔷 **Be selective about whose guidance you invite.** Friends can offer emotional support; case-specific legal questions belong with qualified counsel. 🔷 **Give the rest of your life some airtime.** Make space for interests, friendships, curiosity, and conversations that don’t involve your ex. 🔷 **Keep your support system.** Setting boundaries doesn’t mean bottling everything up. Choose trusted people and appropriate times to discuss what you’re going through. ## Resources and Sponsors **Divorce Crash Course** Our private podcast and guidebook help you prepare for divorce and make more informed decisions. Typically priced at **$150, available now for $50**, thanks to our angel underwriters **OurFamilyWizard and Soberlink**. Explore the Divorce Crash Course **Divorce Pep Talks** Formerly our Guided Divorce Meditations, these private audio recordings put Andrea in your ear when you need reassurance, humor, and help taking the next step. Find Divorce Pep Talks and other resources **Free Pre-Divorce Checklist** Organize your concerns, review your financial picture, and prepare questions for an attorney—even if you haven’t decided to file. Get the free checklist through our website **Free Private Community** Connect with other people navigating divorce and co-parenting. Join our private Facebook community **OurFamilyWizard** Explore tools for organizing co-parenting communication, schedules, and shared expenses. Visit our listener page for offer details. Explore OurFamilyWizard Follow **How Not to Suck at Divorce** for mini episodes on Wednesdays and full episodes on Fridays. Share this episode with someone who needs permission to change the subject. **You’ve got this. And we’ve got you.** *This podcast provides general information, not individualized legal or mental health advice.*