219: When A Double Life Destroys A Marriage And How Hope Returns with Guest K.B. Adamson

Send us Fan Mail Your life can look “fine” from the outside and still be built on a lie. Jen sits down with author KB Adamson to talk about what happens when you discover your spouse of 40 years has been cheating for most of the marriage and hiding a double life tied to strip clubs, porn, massage parlors, and prostitution. The moment of discovery is more than heartbreak. We name the nervous system crash, the rage, the humiliation, the fear of STDs, and the betrayal trauma symptoms that can feel like PTSD, including brain fog and the sense that reality no longer makes sense. We also go past the headline and into the ripple effects: adult children who feel betrayed, grandchildren who feel the tension, and the practical shock of finding out the finances are not what you thought. Cass shares what it’s like to file for divorce before you feel emotionally “ready,” and why safety, truth, and stability sometimes have to come first. We talk about how people often respond poorly to betrayal, how shame keeps survivors silent, and why betrayal can feel worse than death because the person is still alive but the relationship you believed in never truly existed. Finally, we get concrete about recovery. Cass explains how a betrayal trauma therapy group and a strong therapist helped her survive, and how therapeutic writing became a daily tool to quiet rumination and reclaim her voice. We explore the idea that addiction often functions as emotional avoidance and why real repair requires remorse as deep as the betrayal. If you’re navigating infidelity, divorce recovery, or rebuilding your identity after betrayal, this conversation offers clarity and a path forward. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so more survivors can find this support. The Link to buy the book on Amazon- https://www.amazon.com/Hope-Rises-Journey-Betrayal-Power/dp/B0GDMCM2DR/ref=sr\1\1?crid=11HPM4RR3I3IX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.7qR0S9hQ4T53rLukVxyflQ.VQ5IJM6HNMYDC5ryhEakUWZt2vWwyIAsBWq\q4q02Cc&dib\tag=se&keywords=hope+rises+kb+adamson&qid=1783913496&sprefix=kb+adams%2Caps%2C249&sr=8-1 Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: [hello@lifecoachjen.com](mailto:hello@lifecoachjen.com) for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are?