Jul 14, 2026 · 26 min · 10 segments
Besties, in this week’s episode, Aja invites you into the Ladies Lounge for a serious conversation about dating a guy other men would classify as a “simp.” Unfortunately, there’s a dominant narrative…
Asia CorrineHost
In internet slang, a simp is someone, usually a man, who shows excessive attention, devotion, or deference to another person in the hopes of winning romantic or sexual favor.
Then it goes on to say, "The term generally describes someone who tries too hard to please someone who doesn't reciprocate their feelings." So I wanna go ahead and linger on this for a second.
The term simp is often attributed to a man who bends over backwards for a woman, who shows respect for a woman, who is loyal to a woman, who listens to a woman, who shows up for a woman, who respects a woman's boundaries.
And the issue with how the word simp is used is that it is weaponized against men who treat their women with respect, and that is the major thing that I wanna unpack here with you all today.
When you hear another man calling your man a simp, you might think that it's embarrassing, and it took me a long time to get over this hurdle.
Because when I would hear somebody say, "Oh, your man's a simp," I immediately felt very defensive of him because it's like, no, he's not.
And so they're telling me that my man is a simp, why? Because he listens to me, because he values me, because he respects my boundaries, he takes me on dates, he buys me flowers, he'll stop anything he's doing to take a phone call from me.
And it's really important for you to redefine that type of language when people are attacking your man or you and saying these types of negative things about him.
It is a weaponized phrase to mean that you are overly ambitious or overly involved in your romantic relationship with a woman.
In internet slang, a simp is someone, usually a man, who shows excessive attention, devotion, or deference to another person in the hopes of winning romantic or sexual favor.
Then it goes on to say, "The term generally describes someone who tries too hard to please someone who doesn't reciprocate their feelings." So I wanna go ahead and linger on this for a second.
The term simp is often attributed to a man who bends over backwards for a woman, who shows respect for a woman, who is loyal to a woman, who listens to a woman, who shows up for a woman, who respects a woman's boundaries.
And the issue with how the word simp is used is that it is weaponized against men who treat their women with respect, and that is the major thing that I wanna unpack here with you all today.
When you hear another man calling your man a simp, you might think that it's embarrassing, and it took me a long time to get over this hurdle.
Because when I would hear somebody say, "Oh, your man's a simp," I immediately felt very defensive of him because it's like, no, he's not.
And so they're telling me that my man is a simp, why? Because he listens to me, because he values me, because he respects my boundaries, he takes me on dates, he buys me flowers, he'll stop anything he's doing to take a phone call from me.
And it's really important for you to redefine that type of language when people are attacking your man or you and saying these types of negative things about him.
It is a weaponized phrase to mean that you are overly ambitious or overly involved in your romantic relationship with a woman.
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