Aug 31, 2026 · 10 min · 5 segments
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think about what struggling actually means right what that term i mean it means something to everyone right how somebody is struggling it depends on their context it depends on their age how long they've been drinking but above all else it depends on their mental attitude When you say I'm struggling, what does it actually say? What are you actually saying to yourself? I want to drink and I'm trying not to.
Not because it's any stronger than you are, but because it still makes you or guides you into believing that it gives you something, that it gives you a benefit, right? Whatever that might be for you, whatever that benefit might be for you.
this is like the journey of alcohol sometimes you just don't know where you're going and sometimes the best way of approaching it is just to keep going anyway just keep pushing forward but when you have that belief that alcohol still relaxes you or helps you relax you still think it makes your evenings better or your weekends better, you still think that life is somehow going to be much harder without it.
As long as you believe those things, then you're always going to be in a struggle.
You're always going to be struggling because You're struggling with yourself, right? Because you're fighting against something you secretly still want.
The language you use really matters, right? The words you use shape the way that you think and how you think shapes what you do.
When you're saying to yourself, I'm struggling with getting sober, you're making sobriety, you're making... you're making it a problem to to live without alcohol and it's not the problem sobriety isn't the problem or i hate the word sobriety but living without alcohol is not the problem getting this out of your body and out of your life that's the solution to many of your problems You know, the problem is that you're still choosing alcohol in your head, even though you're not drinking it, even though you've decided to stop.
Alcohol is not a problem in and of itself, right? That there are normal drinkers.
And as long as you think that there is a normal way of doing this, you're always going to have a problem.
think about what struggling actually means right what that term i mean it means something to everyone right how somebody is struggling it depends on their context it depends on their age how long they've been drinking but above all else it depends on their mental attitude When you say I'm struggling, what does it actually say? What are you actually saying to yourself? I want to drink and I'm trying not to.
Not because it's any stronger than you are, but because it still makes you or guides you into believing that it gives you something, that it gives you a benefit, right? Whatever that might be for you, whatever that benefit might be for you.
this is like the journey of alcohol sometimes you just don't know where you're going and sometimes the best way of approaching it is just to keep going anyway just keep pushing forward but when you have that belief that alcohol still relaxes you or helps you relax you still think it makes your evenings better or your weekends better, you still think that life is somehow going to be much harder without it.
As long as you believe those things, then you're always going to be in a struggle.
You're always going to be struggling because You're struggling with yourself, right? Because you're fighting against something you secretly still want.
The language you use really matters, right? The words you use shape the way that you think and how you think shapes what you do.
When you're saying to yourself, I'm struggling with getting sober, you're making sobriety, you're making... you're making it a problem to to live without alcohol and it's not the problem sobriety isn't the problem or i hate the word sobriety but living without alcohol is not the problem getting this out of your body and out of your life that's the solution to many of your problems You know, the problem is that you're still choosing alcohol in your head, even though you're not drinking it, even though you've decided to stop.
Alcohol is not a problem in and of itself, right? That there are normal drinkers.
And as long as you think that there is a normal way of doing this, you're always going to have a problem.
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