Aug 19, 2026 · 6 min · 4 segments
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One of my mates, when I told him that I was stopping drinking, he said, ah, you'll be back onto it in no time.
So what else are you going to do? And, you know, that one sentence, right, that one statement that this gobshite said to me nearly derailed my whole journey, right? It nearly derailed the whole thing for me.
not because he was right but because i nearly let him be right in my own head if you get what i mean so here's the thing this guy didn't say anything like this with malice he wasn't sitting there plotting to sabotage me he probably forgot what he said five minutes later but that stuck with me for a long time afterwards and i didn't forget and when you're in those early days fragile and you're uncertain and you're trying to convince yourself that you can actually do this that you can pull this off this time and it's those kind of one-off throwaway comments that somebody will make that somebody especially that is a friend of yours somebody that you probably trust to a certain degree they can feel like an actual verdict on what you're trying to do you'll be back on this Whatever.
And in all fairness to him, he was right because he'd seen me trying to change before.
When the closest people in your life, when they don't believe, it's very hard for you to actually believe.
in yourself, right? Why do people say these things? They're not trying to hurt you.
If you stop drinking and you succeed, what does that say about them? What does it say about their four pints of Guinness every night? You know, about the thing that they tell themselves is normal and just what everyone else does.
When you trust someone, when somebody that you trust says something like that, like you'll be back on it, your brain is going to, there's a possibility that your brain will file that away and it becomes a backup plan.
One of my mates, when I told him that I was stopping drinking, he said, ah, you'll be back onto it in no time.
So what else are you going to do? And, you know, that one sentence, right, that one statement that this gobshite said to me nearly derailed my whole journey, right? It nearly derailed the whole thing for me.
not because he was right but because i nearly let him be right in my own head if you get what i mean so here's the thing this guy didn't say anything like this with malice he wasn't sitting there plotting to sabotage me he probably forgot what he said five minutes later but that stuck with me for a long time afterwards and i didn't forget and when you're in those early days fragile and you're uncertain and you're trying to convince yourself that you can actually do this that you can pull this off this time and it's those kind of one-off throwaway comments that somebody will make that somebody especially that is a friend of yours somebody that you probably trust to a certain degree they can feel like an actual verdict on what you're trying to do you'll be back on this Whatever.
And in all fairness to him, he was right because he'd seen me trying to change before.
When the closest people in your life, when they don't believe, it's very hard for you to actually believe.
in yourself, right? Why do people say these things? They're not trying to hurt you.
If you stop drinking and you succeed, what does that say about them? What does it say about their four pints of Guinness every night? You know, about the thing that they tell themselves is normal and just what everyone else does.
When you trust someone, when somebody that you trust says something like that, like you'll be back on it, your brain is going to, there's a possibility that your brain will file that away and it becomes a backup plan.
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