EP 223 - Why Fixing YOU Fixes Your Relationship | Relationship Coach Chris Fields

I used to think it took two people to have a good relationship. This conversation with relationship coach Chris Fields on the Finding Better Podcast changed my mind — and it might change yours too. On this episode, I sit down with Chris Fields — a relationship coach, NLP Master Practitioner, certified hypnotherapist, and former private investigator based in Savannah, Georgia — for real, practical relationship advice on what actually makes relationships work (and why most relationship advice misses the point entirely). Chris's core message: you can't build a healthy relationship, marriage, or partnership until you understand yourself first. Almost every relationship problem — communication breakdowns, trust issues, even infidelity — traces back to something you learned (or never learned) about love in childhood. Chris walks me through how he uses his private investigator background to trace relationship patterns back to their root cause, why self-audits and journaling are some of the most powerful (and free) relationship coaching tools available, and why letting go of victimhood is the single biggest thing standing between you and a better relationship. I also open up about a real argument I had with my wife THIS MORNING — and the exact "pause and write it out" technique Chris recommends to couples before things get said that can't be unsaid. Whether you're working on your marriage, healing after a breakup, rebuilding trust after infidelity, or just trying to understand why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, this episode gives you honest, actionable relationship advice and self-improvement tools you can use today. 🔑 IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: \- Why understanding yourself is the real key to better relationships \- How childhood shapes your adult relationship patterns — and how to unlearn it \- Why self-audits and journaling reveal your relationship blind spots \- The real reason people cheat (and why it doesn't mean the cheating is your fault) \- How to stop relationship arguments before they spiral — the pause technique \- Why choosing to stop playing the victim is step one to a better relationship \- The book that changed how Chris understands the brain, love, and communication 📖 BOOK MENTIONED: The Owner's Manual for the Brain by Pierce J. Howard https://www.amazon.com/Owners-Manual-Brain-4th-Performance/dp/0062227351  🤝 CONNECT WITH CHRIS FIELDS, RELATIONSHIP COACH: Website: https://mrcbfields.com/  (also reachable at icoachlove.com)