Oct 21, 2026 · 28 min · 11 segments
What happens when life takes an unexpected turn and everything you thought you could count on changes? How do you regain control, rebuild confidence, and find a way forward when the future is…
Dan MacQueenGuestMiracle AbazieHostAnd one, one phrase I see in your work is, is the phrase "Control the controllables." And I think that sounds simple until you are actually in the middle of uncertainty, and you have proved to have been able to do that.
You have explained it a bit, but what does it look like when someone is generally overwhelmed and there are major things happening around them that can, that they cannot change?

So for instance, you know, after the brain hemorrhage, I was in a coma for four weeks and my leg had atrophied, so my leg was non-viable.

And I was so dejected by this and so frustrated with this, but I decided, you know, I can't control that.

What can I, what can I control? Well, I can control getting into the wheelchair five minutes faster than the week before, so 45 became 40.

Did that for a week, and then the next week became 35, then 30, then 25, and then 20.

So when you've got a big overwhelming task to accomplish, aim small, miss small, and ratchet.

Pick a small target to chip away at your goal, hit that goal, and then ratchet up there.

And that's how you can slowly but surely chip away at goals and reach big, audacious milestones.
And for another person, they, they might say that, "I know I can't control it." They don't have control over it, but they can't stop worrying about it.
And one, one phrase I see in your work is, is the phrase "Control the controllables." And I think that sounds simple until you are actually in the middle of uncertainty, and you have proved to have been able to do that.
You have explained it a bit, but what does it look like when someone is generally overwhelmed and there are major things happening around them that can, that they cannot change?

So for instance, you know, after the brain hemorrhage, I was in a coma for four weeks and my leg had atrophied, so my leg was non-viable.

And I was so dejected by this and so frustrated with this, but I decided, you know, I can't control that.

What can I, what can I control? Well, I can control getting into the wheelchair five minutes faster than the week before, so 45 became 40.

Did that for a week, and then the next week became 35, then 30, then 25, and then 20.

So when you've got a big overwhelming task to accomplish, aim small, miss small, and ratchet.

Pick a small target to chip away at your goal, hit that goal, and then ratchet up there.

And that's how you can slowly but surely chip away at goals and reach big, audacious milestones.
And for another person, they, they might say that, "I know I can't control it." They don't have control over it, but they can't stop worrying about it.
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