Aug 26, 2026 · 42 min · 10 segments
Adult friendship doesn't happen by accident, it happens on purpose. In this conversation with Ashley, co-owner of our counseling practice and my best friend, we talk about why making friends as an…
I think they're amazing, but I think they're difficult to come across.
And I think what I find myself talking about a lot with clients is how do we do this? How are we actually going to find deep friendships as life unfolds and we get into different circumstances and we feel like it's just not as easy
run across people that we might get really close to.
Yeah.
So one of the things that we talk about in our offices is that friendships aren't as easy when we get to adulthood.
We don't have the things that typically people have to bond, right? I mean, I think thinking back to high school or even grade school, it's the person who's interested in the same things, right? Or basketball, right? Or volleyball for me.
Or even in college, you've got fraternities or sororities or the people who like the same sports or the people who like the same activities.
Yes.
Well, it's what we do when we don't have these built-in... structures or activities that kind of take the pressure off of us to have to figure out how to meet people or how to find like-minded, life-giving relationships.
Which the hard thing, I think, as adults too, and this is something we talk about a lot, is that we think that as adults, we kind of have to make friendships like we did when we were kids.
Or you like red trucks, so I like red trucks, so let's go play in the sandbox together, right? And in some ways, I think adult relationships are like that.
And at the same time, one of the first things that we want to talk about is sometimes they're really like the unlikely places that you actually make friends.
It's not necessarily... around the same things or finding people in the same life circumstances.
I think they're amazing, but I think they're difficult to come across.
And I think what I find myself talking about a lot with clients is how do we do this? How are we actually going to find deep friendships as life unfolds and we get into different circumstances and we feel like it's just not as easy
run across people that we might get really close to.
Yeah.
So one of the things that we talk about in our offices is that friendships aren't as easy when we get to adulthood.
We don't have the things that typically people have to bond, right? I mean, I think thinking back to high school or even grade school, it's the person who's interested in the same things, right? Or basketball, right? Or volleyball for me.
Or even in college, you've got fraternities or sororities or the people who like the same sports or the people who like the same activities.
Yes.
Well, it's what we do when we don't have these built-in... structures or activities that kind of take the pressure off of us to have to figure out how to meet people or how to find like-minded, life-giving relationships.
Which the hard thing, I think, as adults too, and this is something we talk about a lot, is that we think that as adults, we kind of have to make friendships like we did when we were kids.
Or you like red trucks, so I like red trucks, so let's go play in the sandbox together, right? And in some ways, I think adult relationships are like that.
And at the same time, one of the first things that we want to talk about is sometimes they're really like the unlikely places that you actually make friends.
It's not necessarily... around the same things or finding people in the same life circumstances.
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