Dr.Joe Dispenza- How to change

I think the biggest difficulty in change is making a different choice.

I think about the New Year's resolutions.

Everybody's very clear about what their intention is, what they want, whatever that is.

But if you keep making the same choices, you're going to keep doing the same things.

You're going to keep creating the same experiences.

You're going to keep feeling the same emotions.

And your biology and your neurocircuitry and your chemistry and your hormones and even your gene expression is going to stay the same because you're the same.

But keep thinking the same way and keep acting the same way.

Keep feeling the same way and do it over and over again.

Those circuits in the brain ultimately become hardwired.

And the emotions that are a response to someone or something, even your own thoughts, get conditioned subconsciously as a program into the body.

So 95% of who we are by the middle of our life is an unconscious set of thoughts, behaviors, and emotions that are automatically programmed into our biology.

So...

So the first step to change is not thinking positively.

You have to become conscious of those unconscious thoughts when you decide to make a different choice and it doesn't feel familiar.

The thought that says start tomorrow, it's too hard, just do it anyway, you know, go ahead and make that choice, do the same thing.

You're not good enough, you'll never change, you're too much like your parents, you know, I failed last time.

You have to be able to become so conscious of those unconscious thoughts that you would never go unconscious to that thought ever again, and that's change.

You'd have to catch yourself, how you speak and how you act.

If you want to be happy and you're blaming and you're complaining and you're feeling sorry for yourself and you're judging everyone, those behaviors are not going to make you happy.

They're actually going to make you unhappy.

So you've got to become so conscious of those unconscious habituations that you wouldn't go unconscious and behave that way.

And then, of course, you've got to look at those emotions that are pretty much chemical residue from the past and decide, does this lack, does this suffering, does this pain belong in my future? And that process of becoming so conscious that we don't go unconscious is the process of change.

And how many times do we have to forget until we stop forgetting and start remembering? That's the moment of change.

So the hard part about change is when you decide to make a different choice, get ready, it's going to feel uncomfortable.