Jul 20, 2026 · 43 min · 13 segments
Have you ever had one hard parenting moment and immediately thought, *"I'm such a bad mom"*? I know I have. It's amazing how quickly we can go from, *"Today was hard,"* to believing something is wrong…
Uh, one of my favorite stories in the Don't Mom Alone book is actually about someone else's perceived failure.
Uh, sh- I was on this flight, and I was watching a couple in front of me do an incredible job parenting their little baby.
And then after we landed, their son had an accident, and the mom looked at me and sarcastically said, "Mother of the year." And I wanted [laughs] to hug her and say, "No, you are a wonderful mom.
One accident doesn't erase hours of patient love." And then God kinda tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Heather, why don't you believe that about yourself?" Because a lot of times, I don't.
I think I was cooking dinner, and one of my boys yells out from the bathroom, "Hey, [laughs] you wanna meet my worms? I've named them." And I was like, record scratch, "What? Worms? What are we talking about?" I go into the bathroom, and sure enough, and sorry, warning, this is disgusting, uh, coming out of his poop are little worms.
And if you've ever had pinworms go throughout your family, it's a situation.
I mean, basically, it is like a whole lockdown cleaning situation, almost akin to when they have, um, what is that called? Lice? Yes.
What is wrong with me that my kid has pinworms?" But really, it had nothing to do with me.
It was just the reality of parenting [laughs] and the reality of living in a world where there are pinworms.
And it's this thing that we do where we move from, "I made a mistake," or, "This is a mistake," or, "This is just hard," to, "I am a mistake." And that is not a conviction from God oftentimes.
And I think that I've realized, like, so often, because, and I know a lot of you who listen to this show, we're the kinds of moms who strive.
Uh, one of my favorite stories in the Don't Mom Alone book is actually about someone else's perceived failure.
Uh, sh- I was on this flight, and I was watching a couple in front of me do an incredible job parenting their little baby.
And then after we landed, their son had an accident, and the mom looked at me and sarcastically said, "Mother of the year." And I wanted [laughs] to hug her and say, "No, you are a wonderful mom.
One accident doesn't erase hours of patient love." And then God kinda tapped me on the shoulder and said, "Heather, why don't you believe that about yourself?" Because a lot of times, I don't.
I think I was cooking dinner, and one of my boys yells out from the bathroom, "Hey, [laughs] you wanna meet my worms? I've named them." And I was like, record scratch, "What? Worms? What are we talking about?" I go into the bathroom, and sure enough, and sorry, warning, this is disgusting, uh, coming out of his poop are little worms.
And if you've ever had pinworms go throughout your family, it's a situation.
I mean, basically, it is like a whole lockdown cleaning situation, almost akin to when they have, um, what is that called? Lice? Yes.
What is wrong with me that my kid has pinworms?" But really, it had nothing to do with me.
It was just the reality of parenting [laughs] and the reality of living in a world where there are pinworms.
And it's this thing that we do where we move from, "I made a mistake," or, "This is a mistake," or, "This is just hard," to, "I am a mistake." And that is not a conviction from God oftentimes.
And I think that I've realized, like, so often, because, and I know a lot of you who listen to this show, we're the kinds of moms who strive.
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