166. Growing Up With Emotionally Immature Parents: The Wound Nobody Names, with Morgan Pommells

Some of the deepest wounds are the ones you can't quite point to. Not a big, dramatic event, just an absence, an emptiness, a loneliness that never fully goes away. I sat down with Morgan Pommells, who specializes in helping adult children of emotionally immature parents, to finally put language to something so many of us have felt but couldn't name. We get into what emotional immaturity actually is (and why it's not the same as narcissism), why this kind of wounding is so easy to dismiss as "not that bad," and how it shows up decades later as a false, performative self, chronic overfunctioning, and a deep fear of asking for support. Morgan also walks through how this pattern replays in romantic relationships, what enmeshment versus true differentiation looks like, and what it actually takes to start seeing yourself through your own eyes instead of your parents'. If you've ever felt like you had "a good enough childhood" but something still feels off, this conversation is going to land. **Connect with Morgan:** https://www.morganpommells.com/ https://www.instagram.com/morganpommells/?hl=en **Nervous system program opening in the fall:** https://artisanal-painter-4513.kit.com/1d0ecb021c **WORK WITH ME 1:1:** ❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu ❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh\JAzjN2d\vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform **DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:** - Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide - Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice - Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground - Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned - Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted **VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:** https://marinatriner.com/resources  **CONNECT WITH  ME:** Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/  Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner  **Top Episode Quotes:** "It's not just the big things you can easily identify as happening. A lot of this wounding is sneaky, insidious, and it is about what didn't happen." - Morgan Pommells "If my god-like parent cannot survive me feeling, then I can't survive this feeling." - Morgan Pommells "You have to be able to give yourself permission to get it wrong, while staying with yourself." - Morgan Pommells "I am not unworthy of love. Nobody's going to love me are two completely different wounds. One is about who you are, the other is about how the world is going to experience you." - Morgan Pommells "Who I am at my core is good. It's no longer that there's something fundamentally wrong with me." - Morgan Pommells emotionally immature parents, childhood emotional neglect, relational trauma, inner child healing, self worth, adult children of emotionally immature parents, enmeshment vs differentiation, attunement and mirroring, self trust, codependency, people pleasing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, deep within podcast, Morgan Pommells