425: How weird is sex gonna get in the age of AI? (ft. Susan Bratton)

"Is your dick going to be synced to porn?" That's not hypothetical — it's already on the market. Here, intimacy expert Susan Bratton walks me through "weird" phenomena at the frontier of sex tech and AI, including synchronized strokers, tele-dildonics (I'll bet that's a word you've never come across before), role-player game (RPG) worlds where you can get down and dirty with an Aztec warrior woman, and adaptive AI that learns what gets you off and gives you more of it. But where does this genuinely help? And where can it quietly wreck your dopamine system and/or real-world relationships? We delve into all of it, including the exact device suite that Susan and her boyfriend use for long-distance sex. Imagine being thousands of miles apart, still having synchronized orgasms on video. (I did not expect the "hard-boiled egg" comparison, but you'll get it once you hear it.) Plus: - How a woman can regnerate her vaginal tissue (YES, this helps if she's dry after/during perimenopause/menopause) - The 96% statistic about what most porn is actually showing you - The ancient technique that separates orgasm from ejaculation - Why penis pumps are *not* the cheesy novelty you think they are And a fundamental truth that Susan and I agree on: The best sex tech in the world means nothing without the communication skills underneath it. Plus what I consider the quote of the episode: "I want to live forever and fuck till I die!" — ## Come to the retreat! As of this recording, we have 4 spots left for our Labor Day weekend retreat! Sept 3-7th in Northern California (about 2 hrs north of SF). We work hard to keep it financially accessible, and payment plans are available. As one man says, "If you're thinking about going, you're already there." https://evolutionary.men/retreat/ \--- ## Work with us Ready to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I will help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/) — ### Mentioned on this episode: - Please Her In Bed (Melanie's streaming course on how to talk about sex with women in a way that actually helps them to open up): www.pleaseherinbed.com - Drive Desire (Susan's full toy/device library): www.drivedesire.com — ### Memorable quotes from this episode: - "No one's ever given her these types of strokes before." - "They don't want you addicted to the yoni. They want you addicted to the screens." - "Your dick is a tongue, not a piston." - "You don't owe me an ejaculation." - "How's your hoo-ha doing?" - "When you are a turned-on woman or a turned-on man, you're turned on to life." - "Your sexual vitality and your vitality are two sides of the same coin."