Jun 11, 2026 · 35 min · 5 segments
Todayyy we talk about ways to stay close to your significant other and loved ones when you're struggling mentally. I talk about my ups and downs with my Bipolar Depression II, and how my depression…
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The main topic of today's episode, again, I wanted to talk about putting too much pressure on your significant other or maybe a family member or whoever it is, to not put so much pressure on them to fix you, to fix your mental health, to fix your bad feelings that you have, to fix your OCD obsessions, to fix your depression.
There's sometimes I think just growing up, seeing certain medias, you know, or even just being a romantic and you love the, the big feelings and being in love and you want to like [laughs] be saved in some way.
But we put that kind of [laughs] on the wrong pe- on the wrong person.
I think God's really the only one that can fully save us, but sometimes we put this saving thing on somebody else around us that doesn't have the capacity to do that for us fully.
S- and that's pretty unfair to put that pressure on somebody else.
But it w- [laughs] but it's because it would be nice if someone could just make us feel better all the time.
It would be nice if my husband could just snap his fingers, give me a quick hug and a kiss, and then actually everything was better.
Does it, is it comforting to me? Of course.
Do I need a little kiss and cuddles when I'm feeling anxious, and does it help? 100%.
It calms my nerves.
But does it fix my mental health? Absolutely not, for me.
It does not fix things.
I'm a, pretty stubborn.
My OCD and, uh, you know, a part of me is very, very stubborn.
It's honestly kind of hard to let other people help me.
But even though a part of me like deep down kind of wants to be saved in some way, [laughs] still, even though I know that's like my husband doesn't do that and can't do that.
And even like my mom or my dad, like they can't save me.
They can't take everything, take OCD away from me.
They can't take my, my mental issues away from me.
I'm sure they would want to, and I'm sure there's many people in your life that would want nothing more than to like burden themselves and take it off of you.
But they can't.
Like they, but it's just like, that's just not how life works.
It's impossible.
I can't jump into my husband's shoes and know exactly what he's feeling at all points of the day.
That way I can perfectly understand him and perfectly say the exact right things that he needs all the time in the exact right time.
The main topic of today's episode, again, I wanted to talk about putting too much pressure on your significant other or maybe a family member or whoever it is, to not put so much pressure on them to fix you, to fix your mental health, to fix your bad feelings that you have, to fix your OCD obsessions, to fix your depression.
There's sometimes I think just growing up, seeing certain medias, you know, or even just being a romantic and you love the, the big feelings and being in love and you want to like [laughs] be saved in some way.
But we put that kind of [laughs] on the wrong pe- on the wrong person.
I think God's really the only one that can fully save us, but sometimes we put this saving thing on somebody else around us that doesn't have the capacity to do that for us fully.
S- and that's pretty unfair to put that pressure on somebody else.
But it w- [laughs] but it's because it would be nice if someone could just make us feel better all the time.
It would be nice if my husband could just snap his fingers, give me a quick hug and a kiss, and then actually everything was better.
Does it, is it comforting to me? Of course.
Do I need a little kiss and cuddles when I'm feeling anxious, and does it help? 100%.
It calms my nerves.
But does it fix my mental health? Absolutely not, for me.
It does not fix things.
I'm a, pretty stubborn.
My OCD and, uh, you know, a part of me is very, very stubborn.
It's honestly kind of hard to let other people help me.
But even though a part of me like deep down kind of wants to be saved in some way, [laughs] still, even though I know that's like my husband doesn't do that and can't do that.
And even like my mom or my dad, like they can't save me.
They can't take everything, take OCD away from me.
They can't take my, my mental issues away from me.
I'm sure they would want to, and I'm sure there's many people in your life that would want nothing more than to like burden themselves and take it off of you.
But they can't.
Like they, but it's just like, that's just not how life works.
It's impossible.
I can't jump into my husband's shoes and know exactly what he's feeling at all points of the day.
That way I can perfectly understand him and perfectly say the exact right things that he needs all the time in the exact right time.
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