Parenting Without Losing Your Relationship

Having children puts enormous demands on a relationship. More childcare, more responsibility, less time together and, often, two people who are running on fumes by the end of the day. In this episode of *Crazy in Love*, Matt and Graham look at why modern parenting can leave couples feeling disconnected, resentful and increasingly like they're on different teams. And why the usual relationship advice to spend more time together can feel pretty useless when there simply aren't enough hours in the day. We explore whether we're expecting too much of ourselves as parents, why we might need to scale back some of the things we ask of our children, and how a few practical changes to family life could create more space for the relationship. We also get into the uncomfortable stuff: why some parents find it so hard to set boundaries, why keeping the kids happy can sometimes come at the expense of your partner, and whether the children are really the reason you're not spending time together. The central idea is a simple one: **you can't keep adding more to an already full life. Sometimes, you need to take something away.** We discuss how to make that happen, how to experiment with small changes, and why being a good parent doesn't mean making sure your children are happy with every decision you make. If you're finding that family life is taking over your relationship, this is a practical conversation about what you might need to do differently. You can work with Graham here: www.grahamjohnston.uk You can work with Matt here: www.matwotton.com