Sep 30, 2026 · 25 min · 11 segments
In this episode, Beth and Eliza discuss the topic of transference, which is the difficulty that may occur when a counselee unconsciously redirects feelings and experiences of the past onto the…
Eliza HueyHostAnd today is kind of like a continuation of a previous episode where we talked about counter-transference.
And so we're actually going to talk about the other side of it today, transference.
And reminder to our listeners that whether you're in counseling or not, in the counseling field as a counselor or whatever, even in your everyday life, this will be relevant because you'll be able to think about your own relationships and how am I showing up.
When I show up in front of someone else, I'm not just showing up as a blank slate.
So if you didn't listen to that other episode, we encourage you to go back and listen to that.
And I think it's probably helpful to just give a definition of what that is, because We did that with the last one and it was helpful for me just kind of getting in that space.
Okay, what are we talking about? Transference then is the process by which, and I'm just going to read this definition because I think it makes sense.
The process by which a counselee unconsciously, it's not happening intentionally, transfers feelings, expectations, beliefs, and relational patterns from other relationships, other contexts that they've been on to you, the counsellor.
I know my counselors who I've trained and who I supervise have told me about things.
What's happening there? And it can be very upsetting at times when transference happens, although we're going to actually talk about two sides of transference today.
We're going to talk about what we would consider the obvious negative transference and then maybe sort of the way it shows up.
edgy kind of cutting side of transference and then there's this like kind of glowing helpful or not helpful what's the word um for lack of a better word, feels like a positive side of transference.
So we're going to talk about both of those and hopefully give you some ways to kind of be a little bit more discerning.
And today is kind of like a continuation of a previous episode where we talked about counter-transference.
And so we're actually going to talk about the other side of it today, transference.
And reminder to our listeners that whether you're in counseling or not, in the counseling field as a counselor or whatever, even in your everyday life, this will be relevant because you'll be able to think about your own relationships and how am I showing up.
When I show up in front of someone else, I'm not just showing up as a blank slate.
So if you didn't listen to that other episode, we encourage you to go back and listen to that.
And I think it's probably helpful to just give a definition of what that is, because We did that with the last one and it was helpful for me just kind of getting in that space.
Okay, what are we talking about? Transference then is the process by which, and I'm just going to read this definition because I think it makes sense.
The process by which a counselee unconsciously, it's not happening intentionally, transfers feelings, expectations, beliefs, and relational patterns from other relationships, other contexts that they've been on to you, the counsellor.
I know my counselors who I've trained and who I supervise have told me about things.
What's happening there? And it can be very upsetting at times when transference happens, although we're going to actually talk about two sides of transference today.
We're going to talk about what we would consider the obvious negative transference and then maybe sort of the way it shows up.
edgy kind of cutting side of transference and then there's this like kind of glowing helpful or not helpful what's the word um for lack of a better word, feels like a positive side of transference.
So we're going to talk about both of those and hopefully give you some ways to kind of be a little bit more discerning.
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