Loving Yourself from the Inside

Thank you so much for joining us.

Oh, thank you so much for having me.

I'm delighted to be here.

So, David, as most of us know, the messages that we are sent about beauty, particularly as women, they're brutal and they can make anyone feel less than.

And it really is a shame that it happens.

So what do you think is the biggest problem women face today when it comes to beauty and style?

Oh, boy, it's the same as it's always been.

And it's the same thing in life, which is we are taught to seek validation outside the self.

you know, as if there are ideals that we are supposed to fit into.

And this is true of life as it is in beauty.

So we're really, beauty is really Michael Coggan of the world.

But really this whole idea that there is a perfect ideal that exists outside the self.

And we are not that.

So everything about you needs to be changed to fit into this ideal.

Whether in beauty, we're talking about all these systems, to create the illusion of symmetry like that old fruit standard.

You're a pear, you're an apple, you're a banana.

I mean, quite an awful thing.

Who wants to be a banana? But all of these systems are based on this concept of an ideal outside the self.

So here's the problem.

If you accept this, which we all, we've had no alternative really, then what you're really saying is if I do all these things, and even if I'm perfect, then I've really created a facade out in front of me that is not authentic.

So really, if you do it even well, it leads to low self-esteem, which is the whole issue.

And underneath this, there's always money.

They're always trying to get you to buy more things.

And if they can convince you that there's something wrong about you that needs to be corrected, well, they can keep you on that carousel going round and round and round.

But love-based beauty is really about understanding you're exactly who you're supposed to be.