Lucinda Light: Trolls, triggers and the journey of refinement

Nicely said, Lucinda.

I like all that.

There's a lot to unpack in there.

It does take me back to the maths episodes where you appeared up with Tim.

And one of the things that really stood out for me when I watched that back in, I think it was 2024, was just your ability to not react to things.

And the thing that stood out for me as someone who deals with conflict and team culture and all those sort of areas is you often would see the best in people and that giving the other person the benefit of the doubt.

So are you saying that that's something that you've had to learn or that's a natural sort of component of who you are?

It's interesting, isn't it? It's always column A and column B.

It's a bit of both,

I think.

But I think conflict and relationship and all of this stuff has been a practice through my life, 46 years on the planet.

I mean, we are wild animals and everybody

can be a little bit

reactive with each other.

And I've had some really pivotal times in my life.

Like just before I went on Married at First Sight, I moved to Northern Rivers to a beautiful home on the beach in Suffolk Park.

And I actually moved in as part of five women into the one house.

And that was a relationship masterclass.

It was a masterclass in communication.

because of course there's so many politics living together.

Everybody's got their own values, their own life experience, the ways they do it.

And over the four years I lived there, there was a couple of us that were constants and we stayed throughout the whole journey, but there were different people in rotation.

But what I noticed was as the four years deepened, we kept refining our communication and the way we did it.

to the point by the end we'd sit in circle and we would practice active listening.

So when there was conflict and a misunderstanding or something that was unresolved or a bit tricky, we would just sit there and hold space with the intention to fully understand the other.