Why You Keep Going Back to Your Ex (Even When It's Not Right)

Thinking about going back to your ex… or already did? In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the real reasons you feel pulled back toward an ex—and why it's often more about loneliness, familiarity, and emotional triggers than actual compatibility. She challenges the idea of "what could be" and explains why change—not chemistry—is what determines if something can truly work again. Carla also dives into the truth about sex with an ex, why it can feel comforting but keep you emotionally stuck, and how to decide what's actually best for your growth and future relationships. **What You'll Learn** - Missing your ex doesn't always mean you should go back - Familiarity can feel like love—but it's not the same as compatibility - Real change is required for a relationship to work again - Sex with an ex can delay healing and keep you stuck - Emotional triggers often drive the desire to reconnect - Self-awareness helps you make better relationship decisions **Work with me**:  1:1 Coaching program Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session **Proven Dating Courses**: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs **Book**: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good **Tiktok**: @iamcarlaromo  **Instagram**: @iamcarlaromo **Youtube**: @iamcarlaromo **FREEBIE**: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions **Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On** **Sound Bites** - "Don't fall in love with potential" - "Compatibility trumps everything" - "Sex with your ex keeps you stuck" **Chapters** 01:48 – Should You Get Back With Your Ex… or Are You Just Lonely? 14:55 – Sex With Your Ex: Connection… or Comfort? **Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.**