Ep 72 How to Start This School Year Without Carrying It All and Staying in Your Lane

But today I wanted to talk about new things.

I love new things.

I love the new school year.

I love the fall.

My birthday's in the fall.

And so I feel like it's kind of like a really good reset for me.

And I've been thinking a lot about parents and sending our kids back to school and how we can show up differently, maybe a little bit better this year, and how we can differentiate caring for our children and taking care of them and maybe their problems that they have in their life.

Problems being in air quotes.

versus carrying their problems and getting anxious and reactive and managing our brain so it doesn't spiral out of control when it comes to our kids' issues.

So that's what I've been thinking about.

We've been doing school shopping and we've bought new backpacks and new shoes and clothes and clothes all this stuff.

We have new schedules and as a nurse or a teacher, you have new class assignments or patient assignments.

And sometimes I think in the back of our mind, we think, okay, this year is a restart and I'm finally going to get things right.

And we're going to talk about that a little bit.

And I want you to think how many times have you felt maybe exhausted by somebody else's life choices or somebody else's life and maybe not our own to-do list, but we have that and then added on top of it with another layer is somebody else's to-do list or somebody else's choices or our kids' grades or your patient's choices or your student's choices.

And you can't totally explain why it's sitting so heavy on you.

So today we're going to kind of just make that differentiation.

I think there's a fine line between caring for somebody and carrying them.

Caring fills you up.

Even when it's hard, it comes from an authentic, intentional place where caring can quietly, steadily drain you.

even when they both can look like love from the outside.

So whether you are sending a kid back to school this year or walking into a new shift or a new classroom or even coaches coaching new clients, this episode is for you.

So I am going to try to give you seven signals where you're carrying has crossed that line into carrying with some real examples from parents, nurses, maybe some teachers.

And then I'm going to give you some ideas of how you can stay in your lane.

So let's just get into it.