Sep 29, 2026 · 14 min · 7 segments
In this episode, I’m diving into **why you keep abandoning yourself, even when you know exactly what you should be doing.** You can have the goals, the plans, the strategies, and the best intentions……
Courtney QuinnHost
But today is for the woman who knows this work, who knows mindset stuff, and who knows the work that they need to be doing, and they're not you know, new to mindset and personal development and growth and, you know, deeper work, but it's essentially feeling like she's doing all of the things and doing the work and knows the work, but it's not actually shifting for them, right? So you you know mindset you know strategies you know uh nervous system regulation you know boundaries you know all of these things but maybe it's hard to actually follow through with them or you find yourself still in the same patterns and you're like why is this not working for me i know how to do this i know what i need to do i am doing all these things like you know planning the time block You're putting things in your calendar.
You're setting the boundaries, even saying it out loud, right? But the second something comes up, somebody needs you or there's a fire to put out or somebody's asking something of you, it's gone instantly.
your soul in your heart in your consciousness it doesn't feel essentially like sabotage it probably feels responsible it feels like i'm doing the thing that i need to be doing i'm doing the thing that i need to be to be a good mom to be a good partner to be a good wife to be a good friend whatever it is that you feel like you need to do to be good at this thing right then that's what makes it really hard to catch is because on the surface and consciously, it feels like the responsible thing and we can talk ourselves essentially into doing that.
It's not even a confidence problem, right? If it were like all of these things that you already know, would have worked, would have landed.
It would have been literally as simple as, okay, I need to time block my calendar and then you would follow the time blocking and la-di-da, life has changed.
And that's just like not how it goes sometimes and there's a reason for that because something else is running the show.
But today is for the woman who knows this work, who knows mindset stuff, and who knows the work that they need to be doing, and they're not you know, new to mindset and personal development and growth and, you know, deeper work, but it's essentially feeling like she's doing all of the things and doing the work and knows the work, but it's not actually shifting for them, right? So you you know mindset you know strategies you know uh nervous system regulation you know boundaries you know all of these things but maybe it's hard to actually follow through with them or you find yourself still in the same patterns and you're like why is this not working for me i know how to do this i know what i need to do i am doing all these things like you know planning the time block You're putting things in your calendar.
You're setting the boundaries, even saying it out loud, right? But the second something comes up, somebody needs you or there's a fire to put out or somebody's asking something of you, it's gone instantly.
your soul in your heart in your consciousness it doesn't feel essentially like sabotage it probably feels responsible it feels like i'm doing the thing that i need to be doing i'm doing the thing that i need to be to be a good mom to be a good partner to be a good wife to be a good friend whatever it is that you feel like you need to do to be good at this thing right then that's what makes it really hard to catch is because on the surface and consciously, it feels like the responsible thing and we can talk ourselves essentially into doing that.
It's not even a confidence problem, right? If it were like all of these things that you already know, would have worked, would have landed.
It would have been literally as simple as, okay, I need to time block my calendar and then you would follow the time blocking and la-di-da, life has changed.
And that's just like not how it goes sometimes and there's a reason for that because something else is running the show.
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