092 - Lily | third baby, 2 miscarriages, growth scans, unplanned freebirth, doula, waterbirth

Yeah, so Winnie was born in a birth centre and...

I wasn't, wasn't allowed by my mom to have a home birth for the first birth.

Cause we lived at her house and she was like, Lily, you are just not having a baby in this house.

And we had an amazing doula who is.

And has been at all of my births.

She is literally a garden guardian angel.

She's just the most amazing woman.

And then Nancy, the second was born in the kitchen.

in our house and that was a planned home birth and it was wonderful.

And then this time I planned for home birth as well.

Okay, cool.

So you obviously hired the same doula, as you said, Sarah, again, I can share her details in the show notes.

Yeah.

Was there anything that you did differently or because you knew you were going to have a home birth again, did you just kind of carbon copy things from last time?

So I told Sarah I was pregnant twice.

I think eight weeks.

I was like, let's make sure you are around.

And then I didn't do a lot.

I didn't do really anything apart from mentally.

I did quite a lot of work because as you said at the beginning, I'd never heard of like the third birth is a curve ball.

And then in one week I heard about five times and I, I was slightly furious that people have said that because I'm weirdly, I'm a control freak.

So I like things.

I like to know what I'm doing and I like to be in control of what I'm doing, which is why it's so weird that I'm so happy to wait for a baby and not know what's going on.

So there's like a bit of confusion there.

But I don't enjoy the... like the voices and the narrative around home birth.