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Awakening Now

The Question That Makes the Voice in Your Head Go Silent

Sep 5, 2026 · 52 min · 7 segments

Send me your thoughts in a Text Message There's a question the voice in your head has never been able to answer. Most of us have never actually…

Send me your thoughts in a Text Message There's a question the voice in your head has never been able to answer. Most of us have never actually asked it. In this episode, the second part of a live Zoom meeting, I work directly with four people, each caught in a different version of the same voice. Shame that's become an identity. Guilt over other people's feelings. The quiet certainty of not being good enough. An inner critic that still feels completely real even when it's seen clearly. Each time, we ask the voice one simple question, and each time, something in it goes quiet. These live meetings happen every third Thursday of the month, and everyone is welcome to join. Sign up to my newsletter to receive the link. If you want to explore this more deeply, I've put everything together here. You're welcome to subscribe to my email list and be the first to know about the next round of Seeing Through the Separate Self Experience. https://zcmp.eu/1XWa Music by Valdi Sabev. In loving memory and gratitude for the music he shared. Support the show Websites http://ilonaciunaite.com http://liberationunleashed.com

Send me your thoughts in a Text Message There's a question the voice in your head has never been able to answer. Most of us have never actually…

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Speakers: Ilona CiunaiteHostKimGuestSebastianGuestParticipant on Inner CriticGuestHaydenGuest

Top entities: Gandalf×2 World Wide Web Valdi Sabev The Lord of the Rings God

Releasing Shame and Guilt1:23 – 20:54

S

SebastianGuest

1:23

I have a huge, there are huge identifications with shame and guilt.

S

SebastianGuest

1:30

In my case, I've been, I had a scapegoat black sheep role.

S

SebastianGuest

1:36

Maybe you're familiar with that.

S

SebastianGuest

1:38

And yeah, it's a strong identification with shame and guilt here.

S

SebastianGuest

1:46

And maybe you can help me disidentify a little.

A

AudienceAudience

1:50

Mm-hmm.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

1:52

Okay, when you say that you identify with shame and guilt, what are the exact words that are being said in your mind about that?

S

SebastianGuest

2:04

I'm not good enough.

S

SebastianGuest

2:07

I am wrong.

S

SebastianGuest

2:14

I'm, yeah, worthless.

A

AudienceAudience

2:19

Uh-huh.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:26

Is that true?

S

SebastianGuest

2:30

I'm not sure.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:31

Oh, that's good.

S

SebastianGuest

2:32

Maybe, maybe.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:33

Maybe it's not.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:40

How to know that it's true? Who told you that?

S

SebastianGuest

2:52

That's the message I heard a lot.

S

SebastianGuest

2:57

and I I have internalized it apparently yeah

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:08

so your voice in the head is saying I am worthless I am not good enough so it's pretending to be you the voice is speaking from your perspective Can you see that?

S

SebastianGuest

3:31

Yes, it feels like me.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:35

That's very good.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:36

How do you know it's you? You said it feels like me.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:41

Is that what you would say to yourself?

S

SebastianGuest

3:48

I wouldn't choose it consciously.

GandalfEntityLord Of The Rings character
90%2 mentions
World Wide WebEntity
70%1 mention
Valdi SabevPersonMusician
50%1 mention
The Lord of the RingsBookNovel by John Ronald Reuel Tolkien
30%1 mention
GodEntitySupreme being
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Inner CriticPsychology > Personal Development > Self-Identity > Self-Reflection
AcceptancePsychology > Emotional Intelligence > Self-Awareness > Mindfulness
Dialogue TherapyPsychology > Therapeutic Techniques
Voice DialoguePsychology > Therapeutic Techniques > Dialogue Therapy
Inner DialoguePsychology > Therapeutic Techniques > Dialogue Therapy > Voice Dialogue
Emotional IntelligencePsychology
Personal DevelopmentPsychology
Self-IdentityPsychology > Personal Development
Thought PatternsPsychology > Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Cognitive Behavioral TherapyPsychology
MindfulnessPsychology > Emotional Intelligence > Self-Awareness
Negative Self-TalkPsychology > Cognitive Behavioral Therapy > Thought Patterns
Therapeutic TechniquesPsychology
Mental HealthPsychology
Self-AwarenessPsychology > Emotional Intelligence
EmotionsPsychology > Mental Health
ShamePsychology > Mental Health > Emotions
GuiltPsychology > Mental Health > Emotions > Shame
Psychology
Self-CompassionPsychology > Cognitive Behavioral Therapy > Thought Patterns > Negative Self-Talk
Self-ReflectionPsychology > Personal Development > Self-Identity

Releasing Shame and Guilt1:23 – 20:54

S

SebastianGuest

1:23

I have a huge, there are huge identifications with shame and guilt.

S

SebastianGuest

1:30

In my case, I've been, I had a scapegoat black sheep role.

S

SebastianGuest

1:36

Maybe you're familiar with that.

S

SebastianGuest

1:38

And yeah, it's a strong identification with shame and guilt here.

S

SebastianGuest

1:46

And maybe you can help me disidentify a little.

A

AudienceAudience

1:50

Mm-hmm.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

1:52

Okay, when you say that you identify with shame and guilt, what are the exact words that are being said in your mind about that?

S

SebastianGuest

2:04

I'm not good enough.

S

SebastianGuest

2:07

I am wrong.

S

SebastianGuest

2:14

I'm, yeah, worthless.

A

AudienceAudience

2:19

Uh-huh.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:26

Is that true?

S

SebastianGuest

2:30

I'm not sure.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:31

Oh, that's good.

S

SebastianGuest

2:32

Maybe, maybe.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:33

Maybe it's not.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

2:40

How to know that it's true? Who told you that?

S

SebastianGuest

2:52

That's the message I heard a lot.

S

SebastianGuest

2:57

and I I have internalized it apparently yeah

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:08

so your voice in the head is saying I am worthless I am not good enough so it's pretending to be you the voice is speaking from your perspective Can you see that?

S

SebastianGuest

3:31

Yes, it feels like me.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:35

That's very good.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:36

How do you know it's you? You said it feels like me.

Ilona CiunaiteHost

3:41

Is that what you would say to yourself?

S

SebastianGuest

3:48

I wouldn't choose it consciously.

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