Adult Entertainers, Mature Women & The Myth About Who Society Says Isn’t “Relationship Material”

Send us Fan Mail Today I sit down with Nikole Mitchell and Mellanie Monroe for one of the rawest conversations yet about love, sex work, aging, relationships, self-worth, and the double standards women face every day. Nikole opens up about going viral as the “pastor turned stripper,” leaving behind religion and shame to fully embrace her sexuality, freedom, and identity. Mellanie reflects on nearly two decades in the adult industry, falling in and out of love, taking breaks from the business, and learning the hard way that compromising herself for relationships always led to resentment. Together, they unpack the stigma surrounding adult entertainers and mature women, from being desired privately but judged publicly, to the reality of dating while working in the adult industry. The conversation explores jealousy, honesty, emotional maturity, age-gap relationships, and the difference between real intimacy and transactional sex. They also discuss: • Why many men secretly admire adult entertainers but publicly shame them • The emotional labor and communication required in healthy relationships • Dating younger vs older partners • Why adult entertainers are often safer and more communicative than civilians • How society links sex work with infidelity • The truth about aging, desirability, and confidence • Why sex workers are often portrayed as “damaged” in media • Learning to stop apologizing for who you are • Falling in love with yourself first before seeking validation from others This episode is funny, emotional, vulnerable, empowering, and deeply honest. Whether you agree with every perspective or not, this conversation challenges stereotypes and opens the door to a more human understanding of sexuality, relationships, aging, and identity. ⏱ CHAPTERS: 00:00 – Intro 00:46 – Meeting Nikole Mitchell & Mellanie Monroe 02:49 – Mellanie’s 17-year journey in the adult industry 03:25 – Nikole Mitchell: pastor turned stripper 04:41 – Being desired privately but judged publicly 07:24 – What a truly supportive partner looks like 10:21 – Relationships, compromise & jealousy 12:11 – Falling in love and leaving the industry 16:00 – Navigating boundaries in open relationships 18:45 – Misconceptions about adult entertainers 20:59 – STI stigma & sexual health myths 22:54 – What men are really afraid of 25:01 – Adult entertainment vs infidelity 29:22 – Aging, desirability & female worth 35:09 – Dating older and younger partners 37:16 – Why sex workers are portrayed as damaged 41:57 – Sex work, healing & sexuality 45:28 – Media stereotypes & social stigma 47:31 – Using social media to change the narrative 49:45 – Healthy vs unhealthy age-gap relationships 52:59 – Learning to love yourself 56:25 – Ava Devine’s Bad Advice takeaway Follow the guests: Nikole Mitchell Instagram: @mitchellnikole TikTok: @mitchellnikole Mellanie Monroe Instagram: @mellaniemonroereels X/Twitter: @mellaniemonroe7 Follow Ava Devine's Bad Advice Instagram: @avadevinesbadadvice X/Twitter: @avadevinespod Resources Studio: Level 9 Studios Makeup: Sanaya Beauty / @sanaya\_mua (IG) #AvaDevinesBadAdvice #NikoleMitchell #MellanieMonroe #AdultIndustry #Relationships #Dating #SelfLove #AgeGapRelationships #Sexuality #WomenEmpowerment #Podcast #avadevine