Jul 20, 2026 · 46 min · 10 segments
Questions answered this episode: 1\. You talk on your podcast about how a spouse is vast and deep interiorly, using the analogy of deep sea diving. If you commit to exploring that interior life…
Christopher WestHost
Wendy WestHost
I hear you talk on your podcast about how a spouse is so vast and deep interiorly and that it takes a lifetime or longer to explore.

You mentioned that if you commit to exploring that interior life of your spouse, you'll never be bored.

Recently, some things from our pasts, our pre-marriage days, came up in conversation that hurt deeply to talk about, but overall helped us to grow deeper together and understand each other better.

In applying your analogy, the past seems like the most obvious place to go deep sea diving, but we don't want to constantly hash out past events to grow deeper together.

How can we apply your analogy to the present and to the future? Do you and your marriage read certain devotionals together that you'd recommend or check in with each other on feelings and emotions regularly? Or what does this practically look like?

And yes, part of it is looking at certain painful moments If we went with that analogy of the deep ocean or the deep cave, there are scary things at the bottom of an ocean.

There are shipwrecks, there are creatures that are really weird and scary, and there are sharks, and there are stingrays, and...

But there are also like ancient cave paintings in there, exciting things from the past that can come up.

You could find sunken treasure in a deep ocean that you didn't even know was there.

There are all kinds of ways to take the analogy, but I know you're looking for some practical pointers here.

I hear you talk on your podcast about how a spouse is so vast and deep interiorly and that it takes a lifetime or longer to explore.

You mentioned that if you commit to exploring that interior life of your spouse, you'll never be bored.

Recently, some things from our pasts, our pre-marriage days, came up in conversation that hurt deeply to talk about, but overall helped us to grow deeper together and understand each other better.

In applying your analogy, the past seems like the most obvious place to go deep sea diving, but we don't want to constantly hash out past events to grow deeper together.

How can we apply your analogy to the present and to the future? Do you and your marriage read certain devotionals together that you'd recommend or check in with each other on feelings and emotions regularly? Or what does this practically look like?

And yes, part of it is looking at certain painful moments If we went with that analogy of the deep ocean or the deep cave, there are scary things at the bottom of an ocean.

There are shipwrecks, there are creatures that are really weird and scary, and there are sharks, and there are stingrays, and...

But there are also like ancient cave paintings in there, exciting things from the past that can come up.

You could find sunken treasure in a deep ocean that you didn't even know was there.

There are all kinds of ways to take the analogy, but I know you're looking for some practical pointers here.
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