Practical Optimism Can Save Your Dating Life ft Dr. Sue Varma

Psychiatrist and couples therapist Dr. Sue Varma joins Matchmaker Maria to explain why optimism isn't something you're born with, it's a skill you can build. They break down the difference between healthy realism and catastrophizing, why overthinking keeps people single, and how "maximizers" sabotage dating by chasing endless options. Plus, they answer a listener question about a boyfriend who's afraid to take the next step toward marriage and whether it's your job to fix your partner's fears. If dating has started to feel hopeless, this episode shares practical ways to change your mindset without falling into toxic positivity.   ## ♥️JOIN MARIA'S COMMUNITY + SUBMIT A QUESTION ❓ Ready to date with intention? 💌 Join Maria's Roundtable community or submit your own dating question: 👉 https://www.matchmakermaria.com/askaquestion Use promo code **ROUNDTABLE50** for $50 off ## ✈️ TRAVEL WITH AGAPE ESCAPES Make new friends. Travel the world. ☀️ Check out upcoming trips: https://agapeescapes.com/ Use code **ESCAPES150** for $150 off early bird pricing. ## 📚 ORDER MARIA'S BOOK + FOLLOW ALONG ✨ Order Maria's book 👉 https://www.matchmakermaria.com/book 🎧 Subscribe to the podcast ⭐ Leave a 5-star review if you're feeling lovable and likable ## 🌐 CONNECT WITH MARIA Everything: https://www.askamatchmaker.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermaria TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@realmatchmakermaria Agape Match IG: https://www.instagram.com/agapematch/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AgapeMatch Agape Match: https://agapematch.com/ ## 🎙️ CREDITS Producer: Venetia Geras https://www.venetiageras.com/ Studio: WTF Media Studios https://www.wtfmediastudios.com/home