Why Former Boarders Become Perfectionists — And Burn Out | Piers Cross

Why do so many former boarders struggle with perfectionism, overworking and the feeling that they are never quite good enough? In this episode of **An Evolving Man Podcast**, Piers Cross explores the link between **boarding school syndrome, perfectionism, the inner critic and burnout**. At boarding school, mistakes can carry a social cost. Vulnerability may be hidden, everyone else can appear to have it “sorted”, and achievement becomes a way of proving our worth. Underneath can sit a much deeper belief: **“I’m not good enough.”** Piers explores: - Why boarding school can encourage perfectionism - The fear of mistakes, failure and vulnerability - Fixed mindset versus growth mindset - The link between perfectionism and the brutal inner critic - How perfectionism can create burnout and an inability to switch off - Why control can become a childhood survival strategy - Learning to replace impossible standards with **“I’m good enough”** - Using calm, mindfulness and self-compassion to change the pattern Drawing on Pete Walker’s *Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving* and Emma Seppälä’s *The Happiness Track*, Piers offers practical ways to begin loosening perfectionism.   🌐 Find out more about Piers Cross:  https://piers-cross.com #BoardingSchoolSyndrome #Perfectionism #Burnout \--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.  He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.  He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr\_1\_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1  For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross  For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic  For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community  Many blessings,  Piers Cross  http://piers-cross.com/