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Um, he was my Hot Seat guest last week, and he shared that he likes to degrade.

Of course he does.

A fucking sadist.

[laughs] What do we expect from them? Am I right? But yeah, he said he likes to degrade, but then he also shared that he likes when his submissive degrades him because it takes him into his dom space.

See, I love when people know what they like and what works for them and what gets them to that place where they can either be the most sexy, nasty, freaky, dominant or submissive.

And when they are like that, you actually get the best of them.

There's nothing quite like fucking someone who knows exactly what they want and what they like, and if you can take them there, like if you talk to them the way they like to be talked to, if you touch them the way they like to be touched, yo, you will bring out a different side of them, and that's what I'm hoping to hear more of in this conversation, right? Something else I wanted to say was when he shared that he likes to be degraded as well, a lot of people on the Live were surprised because they are not used to hearing dominants, especially male dominants, share that they like to be degraded.

They are used to hearing dominants share that they do the degrading.

So a lot of people were like, "Are you sure you're a dominant? Are you sure you're not a switch?" And he's like, "Nah, I'm a dominant, but just because I am the one in charge and I'm the one who likes to take the lead, that doesn't mean that I also don't like to be degraded, because degradation does not equal submission." See, this is why we have so much to learn.

We have so much to learn, honestly.

We have so much to learn about BDSM archetypes, about kinks, about fetishes, because why would you think that because somebody likes to be degraded that it means that they're a switch, you know? I like light degradation.

To be honest, I prefer praise over degradation, but sometimes, yo, when your man is like pounding you from the back, like he is deep stroking you, slow stroking you, he has his hand around your neck, you just wanna hear him say, "My good little fucking whore." Mm.