161 // Should We Apologize for Having ADHD

Now, what I'm talking about here, I think it's important to apologize when we've genuinely, when we've genuinely done something wrong.

But when we feel the constant need to apologize for being who we are, it can be exhausting.

It can be connected to things like masking, where we feel like we have to hide who we genuinely are, and it can make us feel like we're not enough, we're not good enough, like we're never going to be good enough, and that is an awful place to be.

And so I wanna help you find that balance between, you know, apologizing when we've hurt somebody versus apologizing for simply being who we are.

Because I think often in our relationships, in our friendships, when we feel that constant need to apologize, it's often because we're living in misalignment with who we are and what would actually be helpful for us.

So what I mean by that is if you're spending time with people who, you know, are, are quite different in a lot of ways and you're only spending time with those people, I'm not saying we should never spend time with people who think differently, who have a different kind of brain than us, that's not what I'm saying.

But if those are the only people you spend time with, you might see all of them as being the same and you being different, and that might make you feel like you need to apologize for being who you are.

I think it's important to spend time with people who understand you, people who have some of those kind of same responses.

One of those for me is interrupting in conversations with people who don't do that.

I do feel the need to apologize, and sometimes I will, not necessarily for who I am, but apologizing if I have, you know, cut them off from what they were saying.

But it's also important for me to have time with people where we kind of interrupt each other and we have this fun banter and this conversation, and it's so much fun, and we tell each other stories and, and things like that and recognize that, you know what? Thinking that interrupting is rude or wrong can often just be a perspective.

It doesn't mean that I am rude or wrong or that you are rude or wrong.

[chuckles] So in today's episode, I wanna give you a few pieces of encouragement and advice to help you really be confident in who you are, to understand who you are, so that in these situations, you can better decipher whether this is something that's about who you are and you don't need to apologize, or whether this is something where, you know, you've intentionally hurt somebody or done something wrong.