Oct 15, 2026 · 7 min · 6 segments
Fake name "Charlie" moved in with his girlfriend about 2 months ago, they both agree chores should be split but every time he does a chore like taking out the trash or doing the dishes, she says he's…
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He says, "I've been living with my girlfriend for almost two months, and there's already a clear source of contention showing itself."
Ooh.
"We've been adamant about chores being shared."
Good.
"And I am always willing and able to do my part.
The problem is, I do everything wrong.
So far, I take the trash out wrong, I do the dishes wrong, load the dishwasher wrong, clean the toilet wrong.
Everything is wrong.
I have asked to sh- her to show me how she would like it done, but all I get is, 'Nevermind, I'll just do it.' I can tell this is going to turn into a thing.
How can I get-"
Ooh
"...
this in a more positive place before it ends up eating at us both?"
Well, Charlie, I feel bad because I definitely missed a part of this DM whenever I first read it, of him saying he was taking the initiative to ask-
Mm-hmm
... how she would like it done.
That's huge.
Yeah.
That is.
Okay, so now you're coming at this all right.
The one piece that we're missing is of your girlfriend, this is, I know because I also suffer from this, this is a control issue.
Mm-hmm.
And this is also a hyper-independence issue.
Mm-hmm.
So yes, that's up to her to work on.
He says, "I've been living with my girlfriend for almost two months, and there's already a clear source of contention showing itself."
Ooh.
"We've been adamant about chores being shared."
Good.
"And I am always willing and able to do my part.
The problem is, I do everything wrong.
So far, I take the trash out wrong, I do the dishes wrong, load the dishwasher wrong, clean the toilet wrong.
Everything is wrong.
I have asked to sh- her to show me how she would like it done, but all I get is, 'Nevermind, I'll just do it.' I can tell this is going to turn into a thing.
How can I get-"
Ooh
"...
this in a more positive place before it ends up eating at us both?"
Well, Charlie, I feel bad because I definitely missed a part of this DM whenever I first read it, of him saying he was taking the initiative to ask-
Mm-hmm
... how she would like it done.
That's huge.
Yeah.
That is.
Okay, so now you're coming at this all right.
The one piece that we're missing is of your girlfriend, this is, I know because I also suffer from this, this is a control issue.
Mm-hmm.
And this is also a hyper-independence issue.
Mm-hmm.
So yes, that's up to her to work on.
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