Being Happier Starts With Listening to Yourself, Not Just Treating Yourself || H&K with Taylor Elyse Morrison

Early on in my own motherhood, I was at that place of being so empty that, you know, I was literally crying over spilled milk.

You know, that's where I was like, okay, something's wrong.

Okay, this is not me.

This is not the way I would normally handle this if I were you.

you know, strong and supported in myself.

And that can happen for anyone out there.

Not just if you have kids who spilled milk, but let's, let's figure this out then where can they start? If maybe they're like me five years ago, where some spilled milk makes them scream at the heavens and gnash their teeth, or, you know, like you said, the stubbed toe or something else like that is, is showing them that there needs to be some deeper work here that will be so beneficial in the long run, which also entails the setting of boundary stuff.

Where can they, where can they start?

The first place to start, if you are getting in that moment where you're crying about something, I had this moment yesterday where I was crying and then I realized I'm actually in my luteal phase of my menstrual cycle.

So I'm PMS and it's amplifying anything else that's going on beneath the surface.

But I was crying over my dinner, not turning out the way that I wanted it to turn out.

And so the first thing that I did is I turned in and I listened and was like, okay, this is an inordinate amount of emotion for dinner not turning out how I wanted it to turn out.

And so I paused and was thinking, okay, what's going on? There were some relational narratives and competence narratives that were coming up for me on, am I a good cook? Do these people think I'm a good cook or not? There was also...

A sense that I should probably check my menstrual cycle tracker app and see what's going on.

And that's how I realized, oh, I've shifted into my luteal phase.

So when you can give yourself a moment to pause and say, okay, what's going on? Talk to yourself, whether that's talking to yourself out loud, journaling, just having a moment of silence.

So whatever is already there can be heard.

That is a really great thing to do.

I love how you phrase

that though.

So like whatever's already talking can be heard.

Yeah, because it's there.

That's why you're crying or lashing out or whatever is going on.

And then from there, you were talking about the boundaries.

There is certainly this interrelatedness between being able to practice deep self-care and setting boundaries.