Cool Daddy Talks: Different Needs, Same Love, Different Perspective

Yeah, so I'm a single dad of a profoundly autistic son who's 13 now.

And he actually has a brother who's not autistic, so that presents challenges.

And I just started posting just about the journey around six months ago.

And I got so many reactions from people.

I just started to keep posting

for that community.

Yeah, I think it's so I think it's so important.

I love how raw your videos are and that you just kind of kind of tell it how it is.

And so I think it's interesting to have two sons.

So what do you feel like the dynamic is between your son with profound autism and then your son that it's does not autistic?

Yeah.

So it's it's challenging for sure.

When like recently, my son had to go back to the psych hospital, had to get admitted.

And to his brother, it was like, oh, it was like a break, you know, a well needed break.

And, you know, when when we have those times together.

I try to take advantage of it because there's just not a lot of him and his little brother or me and his little brother time.

But I always try to carve in, usually at the end of the night, just me and little brother.

So that way he doesn't, when things are crazy and a mess, he still feels included where he has a voice.

I've seen that a lot with families where it's like, you know, I've even seen it where sometimes the like one of the children that doesn't have autism, they kind of like become almost like a caretaker, too, or they have to kind of cater to those needs because those needs are so prevalent.

There are sensory issues or, you know, sometimes there's aggression, obviously, like sometimes there's nonverbal communication.

So I think that, you know, I think it's really important that you are carving out that time for him, too.

And he probably is enjoying the break, the time with you, the one on one time.

Yeah.

Yeah, that's amazing stuff.

And the hardest thing or one of the hardest things, really challenging, is when little brother comes to me and asks, why doesn't he want to play with me? And now you get into self-esteem issues and trying to get him somebody outside to talk to just so he can communicate his feelings and try to support it any way I can.