#318: Old Houses, New Chapters

I think too, so here's, here's a, a wish and a thought.

So the thought is I think as an adult making new friends, and not even, it's not even always a new friend.

Sometimes it's like I'm already a little bit friends with this person, maybe from work, maybe from my kids know their kid, whatever situation or, you know, some kind of club or community thing you're involved in, whatever, and then you meet someone through them.

And I'll just say this.

I think if you're, like, wanting to make new friends, if you're like, "I don't have a lot of friends in this town, and I would like to make some 'cause we're planning to stay here," you kinda have to put that out there.

Yeah.

And I'm not saying you have to walk up to every new person you meet and be like, "I'm looking to make friends." Like, obviously that might be a little bit much that, you know.

But I do think you kinda have to put it out there.

If you meet someone and you feel like you're clicking, invite them to something.

Yeah.

And if they can't do that thing, invite them at least one or two more times because people are just busy.

It can be very self-conscious to do that kind of thing.

If you're used to having a friend group and you didn't really have to put yourself out there to new people, then this might feel weird.

But I think when I meet someone and we kind of vibe and they invite me to something, that's when I know they want to hang out.

And then I will.

Then I'm like, "Great."

Yeah.

You know? But if you never invite me to anything, then I just don't know, 'cause so many adults are busy or-

Mm-hmm

... honestly, there's a lot of adults I meet who seem like they don't really want friends.

[laughs] They're happy with just hanging out with their kids and their partner.

Mm-hmm.

And that's great.

I have no judgment about that, but I'm also like, "Well, I'm not gonna invest a lot of time into this then, because you don't, you know-

Yeah