Virginia Satir
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Sep 9, 2026
Abby MedcalfHOST
Nobody's talking about the feelings, the unconscious, the sometimes conscious motivations that are driving every single conversation you have.
Abby MedcalfHOST
Virginia Satir, she's often referred to as like the mother of family therapy.
Abby MedcalfHOST
She spent years listening to how people communicate under stress.
Abby MedcalfHOST
And she very famously named four patterns that people fall into when they feel threatened.
Abby MedcalfHOST
Uh, and this is what is always coming up when you're talking to somebody every time, uh, and having anything that just, and again, it doesn't always feel like a disagreement.
Abby MedcalfHOST
You feel like you're just talking and you're missing each other.
Abby MedcalfHOST
You go like, what is happening here? So four things that, uh, Virginia Satir named.
Abby MedcalfHOST
One is blaming.
Patrick PorterGUEST
So they're talking people out of their change.
Patrick PorterGUEST
You know, so i- the, the, the whole thing is that I think there's a time for that, and I think that's why NLP and people like Virginia Satir and, and Milton Erickson and these guys, they, they were actually the forerunners that said, "Hey, why are we spending all this time doing this?" You know, most people don't know Freud sat behind them because he had a cocaine addiction, and he didn't have any teeth.
Patrick PorterGUEST
He had wooden teeth, and he had bad breath.
Patrick PorterGUEST
You know, so they think it was because he was doing some profound thing sitting behind them.
Edmund SprungerGUEST
I was watching Carl Rogers.
Edmund SprungerGUEST
I was watching Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir, films about Piaget.
Edmund SprungerGUEST
One thing led to another.
Edmund SprungerGUEST
I was in my own psychotherapy and I ended up doing a master's in social work at the University of Michigan because it was right there.
Deborah AnconaGUEST
So podcasting, Part of where ghosts come in is that we are good at certain things and we gravitate to them.
Deborah AnconaGUEST
And what Virginia Satir would say is that we replicate our family patterns even when they're not functional for us at the moment.
Morra Aarons-MeleHOST
But they're comfortable.
Morra Aarons-MeleHOST
And I think that's such an interesting point.
David MeltzerHOST
Um, and, and, and that's kinda agnostic in terms of where I am in the world, but I am informed and, and, and yeah, imprinted by that piece.
David MeltzerHOST
Virginia's work, you know, Virginia Satir's work on family constellations, uh, do you bring that kind of a conversation into the conversations you have with your, your clients as you're working with them? You know-
Pam Manfredo CurtisGUEST
So-
David MeltzerHOST
... from a constellation, birth order, positioning, all that stuff.
Rick HansonHOST
And first of all, what do I mean boundaries? Well, let's start with some basics.
Rick HansonHOST
If you have any background in helping professions, you may recognize the name Virginia Satir, S-A-T-I-R.
Rick HansonHOST
She was a legendary, bless her memory, family therapist in the 70s, maybe 60s, certainly 80s, And one of the things that you really emphasized in working with couples and families is that differences are normal.
Rick HansonHOST
Differences are okay.
Fleet MaullHOST
the family consolation therapy is so illuminating because in many ways we don't, most of us don't realize this, but we're all playing out the un, unprocessed and uncompleted emotional lives of our ancestors.
Fleet MaullHOST
And in many ways, there's some wonderful psychotherapeutic work, Virginia Satir did a sculpting work, and she would show how when people were locked into chronic conflict, like couples locked into, generally, the roots went back to both of their parents, and they're really playing out, it's like the ghosts of their parents are playing out these conflicts through them, right? And it can be so illuminating when we can actually release these, and whether our parents are still with us or not, to release with complete love.
Fleet MaullHOST
But that's their work.
Fleet MaullHOST
We have our own work.
Sophia GeorgiadouGUEST
I don't know that I had a lot of bridging that happened between watching a master therapist do their best work and then me or Sophia just trying to figure out how to be myself in the therapy room.
Sophia GeorgiadouGUEST
So I love showing therapy sessions, even if they're mock sessions to my students these days, to point out specific skills being used, not just to like say, oh, let's sit down for an hour and watch Virginia Satir doing her magic.
Sophia GeorgiadouGUEST
And just marvel at her.
Sophia GeorgiadouGUEST
Like, I don't know if that's so useful for actual clinical practice and for training our students.
Sarah LyonGUEST
Yeah, I will follow up here a little bit, Sophia.
Sarah LyonGUEST
We show those videos, I think, still to this day.
Sarah LyonGUEST
The structural videos, the Virginia Satir videos, I'm a big fan.
Sarah LyonGUEST
And students, for the most part, like to watch them.
Ken TylerGUEST
And there evolved into things like statues.
Ken TylerGUEST
And that was Victoria, what's her last name? Satyr.
Ken TylerGUEST
Satyr.
Ken TylerGUEST
And then a guy named Hellinger came along and did constellation work.
Ken TylerGUEST
And there's a bunch of other stuff.
Fleet MaullHOST
And just stepping back for a moment and really understanding what we're up against, you know, we've been talking about these stories, these different attachment styles.
Fleet MaullHOST
I imagine you're familiar with Virginia Satir's work, you know, around sculpting.
Fleet MaullHOST
And what, you know, they'll often find that... couples often find themselves getting in the same conflict again and again, or, you know, chronic arguments, chronic conflicts.
Fleet MaullHOST
And so Virginia Satir would work with them and others using her methodologies and get clear with one person.
Fleet MaullHOST
Like when you're in that conflict, what's your posture? What are you, what are you doing? What are you saying? What's your frame? And it worked with that one person.
Fleet MaullHOST
Once they get really clear, both people agree that, yeah, that's the positive.
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